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Though we are separated, my WH is still trying to win me over. While I listen, I don't offer a lot of feedback. I see no point for nc as a decision has been made.

For whatever reason, he asked why I was angry today (i wasn't really, just annoyed). I actually said I'm angry because when you had chicken pox (early in our m). I put calamine lotion on your ass and in other places where a q tip and lotion should never wander! And this is how you repay me??? With an a?

I hear these words coming out but I can't stop myself. He looks at me with shock and awe and has no idea what to say. He leaves, I laugh at myself and say wth! Any of you have ridiculous wth moments in this? I need some laughs!

[This message edited by 41andthankful at 6:46 AM, July 17th (Wednesday)]

LOL!

I've done sooo many similar things for my H over the years..... (not with chicken pox issues, but others in that region!)

That is awesome. And quite honestly that shows the depths (no pun intended) that we go to to care for the ones we love. You and he were able to be vulnerable enough to share an experience like that.

I say good for you for opening up and whacking him on the head with a snarky comment like that.

The best zinger I got off on my H was when he was in the midst of the A and made every excuse in the world to work out of town, and then to expand it to some weekend stuff because of things going on in OW's town.... I told him. This sucks, you might as well be dead for all the help I get. Even divorced mom's get some time away from their kids to get a break, and get things done. I knew I had hit him HARD, the response was dead silence, then I said I have to go, I'm spreading mulch. (Another dig because that was something he always did, but I was perfectly capable of). I think it made him realize that I wasn't going to put up with his shenanigans and knew I would be ok without him.

Over our 20 yr relationship and 16 and a half yrs of marriage I have done thing for wh that I couldnt imagine doing for anyone else...but he was/is my h..thats what husbands and wives are supposed to do, right?!

Some days I look at him and think wow..i know his flaws, his hang ups and quirks. I thought that meant something but in actuality it was part of his escapism during his " affair" mow didn't really know him or know any of those things... If she had it would have killed the mood, lol.

But ya..its like wow! This is how I'm repaid for being there for him...

Damn

The words we say that even right before we say them we are already laughing at our silliness. Oh yes, Im queen of word vomits some days.

After DDay#1 and before DDay#2, WH#2 was caught texting the OW, gave some stupid excuse it was the phones fault, and thought I would just drop it. He was going to the deer lease that next day to pick up his and his BF 4-wheelers on my trailer that I owned before we met. Nope it ain't happening. I got the key to the locked trailer and hid it. When he was on the phone with his BF the next day he was laughing and told him I was pissed and hid the key. He told his friend he would just cut off the lock and he could still take it. His friend told him that is well and fine, but what are you going to use for a license plate? Yep...I had taken that off too and told my BF who was his BF's wife. We were all laughing, but he was embarrased that his friend knew more than he did. He didn't think it was so funny when he had to tell his friend he would have to find another way to get his 4-wheeler home, he had no way to get his own, and the deer lease is 6hrs from our house. I said fuck with me some more asshole as he walked his embarrased, angry ass out the door to face his buddies without MY trailer. I won't mention that I cleaned the toliet with his toothbrush too. I figured his mouth had been on a lot nastier things than our toliet.

Edit: To correct my spelling.

[This message edited by TrustGone at 12:46 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)]

TrustGone, I bow before your splendiforus self!