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gma56 (original poster member #19595) posted at 12:13 AM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
Tomorrow marks one year since we went to court and signed the divorce papers.
All I can say is I'm still very RELIEVED !There's nothing I miss about my old life.
It's taken awhile to settle into my new life but I continue working on it.
I've started back into the workforce and trying to develope a retirement plan sucks. 
I'm not dating and doubtful if I will anytime soon.
I'm OK and that is good enough.
Gma
BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
kiki1 ( member #37184) posted at 12:17 AM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
(((gma)))
Great post!!
stay happy 
torn2bits ( member #28376) posted at 12:38 AM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
Oh gma, I am probably going to sign my papers in October.
I am so happy to hear that you are doing well after all that has past.
A shining example for us all.
Keep on that momentum!
Me: 45/WH (SA): 49
M: 26 years 3 kids over 10 yrs old
EA/ PA Dec. 2009 -Divorce halted
phmh ( member #34146) posted at 1:17 AM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
Congratulations!
I can't wait to see how much more progress you've made a year from today.
What a wonderful, bright future you have ahead of you!!!
Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 2:06 AM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
Yay! 
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 4:04 AM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
oh, gma, you are way too good to be OK! I think you are fabulous!!
Congrats on the milestone.
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 4:29 AM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
peridot ( member #18334) posted at 6:18 AM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
Has it already been a year? Glad to hear everything is going good for you.
I think...therefore, I'm single.
It is what it is.
nutmegkitty ( member #33882) posted at 11:56 AM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
Good stuff!!!!
Me - happy!
2 DDs
Very happily divorced from an NPD since 2013.
cmego ( member #30346) posted at 12:05 PM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced
NaiveAgain ( member #20849) posted at 12:49 PM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.
newnormal ( member #21925) posted at 1:07 PM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
If SI had a like button, this tread would blow up
BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07
Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo
Too_Trusting ( member #99) posted at 3:18 PM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
I'm right there with ya, gma! Kudos to EVERY one of us here that takes the knife to the stomach, forges a new and better life, and emerges stronger for the experience.
Collectively and individually, we ROCK here at SI!! 
"Anyone perfect must be lying; anything easy has its cost. Anyone plain can be lovely; anyone loved can be lost." Barenaked Ladies
gma56 (original poster member #19595) posted at 6:32 PM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
Kudos to EVERY one of us here that takes the knife to the stomach, forges a new and better life, and emerges stronger for the experience.
Our lives are forever changed by the choices of someone we trusted and loved. We can choose to have a permanent self pity party or take our lives back.
Building a new life is a slow struggle for me but so thankful I have the opportunity to reach my goal of being happy and content with life again. I look back a year ago and I have made some progress but not near to where I want to end up.
I have a dream of where I want to be in three years and I'm on the right path to get there. I do wish it would happen quicker but the wait and hard work will pay off when I look up out my front door and see the beautiful mountains in the future.
I've learned to be patient with myself and count the blessings I do have now. How fast those blessings can be taken away.
Also I have found that there is more than one path to being happy with myself and life. My post divorce path isn't smooth it has many bumps, pits, and steep hills but I will get where I'm suppose to be.
I have so much love in me (I thought I wasn't capable of love again) and hope someone's heart will open up to be able to accept it. Only the future knows if that will happen, for now I'm OK.
Hugs to all of us going through, recovering, and starting over.
Gma
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BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 6:35 PM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
How fast those blessings can be taken away.
I've become hyper-aware of this in the last five years and I do believe it enhances our appreciation of what we do have now.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Survivor3512 ( member #37946) posted at 6:36 PM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
That is so awesome! Congratulations!!
Me (BS)- 36
Divorced
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Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie
ExposedNiblet ( member #30803) posted at 6:38 PM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
YOU are awesome!
lostmommy ( member #33440) posted at 6:38 PM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
Me (BS): 32, Mommy to J: 2 1/2 Divorced: 4/10/13
Sometimes you find yourself in the middle of nowhere, and sometimes, in the middle of nowhere, you find yourself
Newlease ( member #7767) posted at 7:13 PM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
You are doing just fine.
NL
Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.
LOSTinaBook ( member #30309) posted at 7:52 PM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
I'm glad to hear you're doing well, gma!
fBW-me, 26 (now 34)
xWH-he
Divorced.
S (H e) B E (L i e) V E (d).
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