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gma56 (original poster member #19595) posted at 11:15 PM on Wednesday, August 7th, 2013
CW is back in my life after a year. 
He needed a break after we finally got our divorces finished. He suffered with a bad case of PTSD and needed to relocate to figure out his direction. We met when he was only 2 mo from separation so he had healing to do that I couldn't help him with.
He's doing much better and has refocused. We talked 6-7 times in the last year. A few weeks ago he called... 
I had given up and was NC for 2mo.
I tried to detach (tried every SI idea and a few I read about)and even was accused of still having feelings for CW by another man. Other man was right, I really thought it was over forever. We're going slow but it's all good so far and no more divorces to navigate through. Whew !
We both have work obligations but it can be worked around.
I'm happy.
Gma
BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
Crescita ( member #32616) posted at 11:27 PM on Wednesday, August 7th, 2013
“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
Take2 ( member #23890) posted at 11:32 PM on Wednesday, August 7th, 2013
"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 11:41 PM on Wednesday, August 7th, 2013
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 11:42 PM on Wednesday, August 7th, 2013
Aw! Happy for you gma. You deserve it. 
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 11:44 PM on Wednesday, August 7th, 2013
gma - since it's a secret, I'll keep my squee very hushed. 
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 11:46 PM on Wednesday, August 7th, 2013
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
peridot ( member #18334) posted at 11:51 PM on Wednesday, August 7th, 2013
I think...therefore, I'm single.
It is what it is.
SoHappyNow ( member #8923) posted at 11:57 PM on Wednesday, August 7th, 2013
In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer..Albert Camus--------73 now. Dday #1 was 11/11/05 ***Used to be hit-by-a-train*** Widowed, then VERY happily remarried 2/14/14
Griefstricken25 ( member #29183) posted at 12:08 AM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013
You deserve it, gma!
Me!
3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011
gma56 (original poster member #19595) posted at 12:11 AM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013
Thanks ya'll !
I hope this is true in my case. 
BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 1:31 AM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 2:05 AM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013
That's great lady
Kind of gives me a little hope about my breakup in May - similar timeline from D.
Really happy for you!
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 4:28 AM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013
Yay! Secret's out! 
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
cayc ( member #21964) posted at 5:00 AM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 5:29 AM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
gma56 (original poster member #19595) posted at 5:59 AM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013
I missed him more than he will ever know. All 6'4" of him.
It was a needed break but the timing sucked. 
Susi (unicornsearcher) had so much faith that he would be back. She knew what I didn't. I would love to tell her and tell her right now, she was right. Love and miss ya Susi ! She thought CW was one of a kind man. I agree.
[This message edited by gma56 at 2:19 AM, August 8th (Thursday)]
BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
gogirl ( member #26870) posted at 2:10 PM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013
Wonderful news...just love it!! Good for you two!
It's never too late to live happily ever after.
lynnm1947 ( member #15300) posted at 2:23 PM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013
gma, after the trauma of your marriage coupled with the trauma of Susi's death, I for one think you deserve some happiness. Good on you. Good on CW for realizing he had a good thing going!
Edited to add: And Susi already knows.
[This message edited by lynnm1947 at 8:37 AM, August 8th (Thursday)]
Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks
Newlease ( member #7767) posted at 3:07 PM on Thursday, August 8th, 2013
NL
Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.
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