((((Island girl)))))
My story is the same as yours but all i got was "i apologise for that". No remorse. No total recognition of what he had done to me and the hell ride he had put me through. 10 months false r, broken nc twice, discovery of ow phone number, calling me filthy names then telling me how much he loved me and wanted it to work.
Silent treatment then couldnt fo enough for me......total mind fuck.
I told him to leave 3 months ago. All he could say and still maintains is that he did nothing wrong! WTF????
He looked her up 1 week after i left him. They are hanging out together so that just shows me how much of an idiot she is too.
It hurt like hell. I tried so hard to make my marriage work and after spending 24 years of my life with this man he just disgarded me like trash. I sent him so many angry text messages after they started flaunting pics on FB which my son saw. I then decided to go full NC.
Our house sold recently and me and my son moved before settlement which WH is unaware of.
It was the best thing i did. New energy in my new little home which i rent and i told all my friends that i do not want to know about his activities. I maintain zero contact and i have felt a real shift. Yes i am hurt and angry BUT i am relieved. No more checking phone bills, computer etc.
I am in ic which helps and my life is my life. I can do as i please and each day does get better. I am detaching and letting go of the parasite that i now know does not deserve me and probably never has.
I have a wonderful sister who went through a similar thing and she says to me that he has done me a favour. I am starting to see that slowly. I know that my heart will heal as will yours and i have stopped myself from trying to understand why he would be so so cruel to me.
This much i know.....it is him not me.....he has serious issues and probably always has, they just get worse as time rolls on, its her problem now not mine and i am FREE!
Remind yourself when u are having a shit day, of all the dirty rotten, despicable things he did to you, dont focus on what you had hoped for, these things will help you see that this deluded fucktard is not a healthy person you want in your life.
You have total control of YOU.....fuck him......
Life does get better. Each day you will heal a bit more and when you get 3 months down the track you will see what i mean. I can only imagine what 6 months and the rest will feel like because i am testament to you that its a millions time better than living a life with a selfish parasite.
Eat good foods even if its only small amounts, socialise with friends and only talk about your shit when you feel like it.
You may not see now but clarity will come soon. Go see a lawyer to protect you.
Stay strong you are worth it and he is BROKEN.
((Hugs)))