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bitterbetrayal (original poster member #26326) posted at 12:46 PM on Friday, October 11th, 2013
If only I had read this brilliant article at the beginning. I had the worst MC possible who did and said all the things first mentioned in this article. I am posting this here because I was requested to do so after posting it in general. Please please read it. http://www.davidclarkeseminars.com/apps/articles/?columnid=508&articleid=3813 It's relevant even if you are not a church goer.
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Me. BS 52 at the time
Him.WS 52 at the time and a priest!
D-DAY 12/07/09.
Married 25 years at the time.
Two children 20 and 22 at the time.
Take2 ( member #23890) posted at 9:38 PM on Friday, October 11th, 2013
bumping - because it is going to help some poor soul out there, who finds themselves with a bad MC...
"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?
Exit Wounds ( member #32811) posted at 9:46 PM on Friday, October 11th, 2013
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Exit WoundsH of 17 years got gf pregnant, left our kids 9 & 11 and we never saw him again. -His choice.
putonahappyface ( member #30269) posted at 2:33 PM on Monday, October 14th, 2013
Awesome! Wish every counselor was trained to follow this.
BS (me) - 51; SAWH- 52 (hurtherbadly)
Married 28 yrs
2 DS - 21&17
Dday 6/4/2010. 2 EA/PA
11/15/12 update: discovered porn addiction
4 years out: M is strong; FWH is a new man :)
sad12008 ( member #18179) posted at 3:29 PM on Monday, October 14th, 2013
I agree; it is REALLY great that it is coming from someone who can maybe bend the ear of the pastor-oriented people. I don't say that derisively; rather, I am relieved.
You're right; it has relevance to all and though he references the Bible and frames the message within a Christian context, it's not in a proselytizing or distracting manner.
I hope this helps some people! Finding a good MC or IC is as hard as finding a good hairdresser.
You can't fill a cup with no bottom.
maddmurph ( member #40940) posted at 6:30 PM on Monday, October 14th, 2013
We go to our first session on Friday. If it starts out the wrong way, I will know. Glad you posted it. Thanks.
Me - BS, 33
Her - WW, 33
DS 7, DD 3
bitterbetrayal (original poster member #26326) posted at 7:01 PM on Monday, October 14th, 2013
I am so glad this is helping you all.I hope others will read it too.
Me. BS 52 at the time
Him.WS 52 at the time and a priest!
D-DAY 12/07/09.
Married 25 years at the time.
Two children 20 and 22 at the time.
Mr. Kite ( member #28840) posted at 8:05 PM on Monday, October 14th, 2013
Thank you for taking the time to post this article.
I can't tell you what to do, but I can tell you what not to do.
katiej ( member #14724) posted at 2:11 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
Just bumping this because it is an EXCELLENT article and one I wish I had found a long, long time ago. Our marriage counselor was just that - only discussed our marriage and let the affairs slide by because, of course, it was the issues in our marriage that made him do it.
First d-day Oct. '06. 3 more after that.
He is working hard. We are R.
2015: He didn't work hard enough. Back again and this time with a diagnosed SA. Living in the "in between" and not yet leaving due to a number of reasons.
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