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sunsetslost (original poster member #39885) posted at 5:33 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
I am struggling today friends. I've tried the exercises my therapist told me about. I've reached out to friends. I just can't shake this. Maybe this is just one of those shit days. There are. I butterflies today. I'm considering a "sick" day. Just going to the house and going to bed. This sucks. It just sucks.
Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 5:47 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
I am so sorry, brother. There are shit days. Days when you just can't even force yourself to get out of bed to pee.
Hang in there. It will get better. It just takes a long time. Better days are coming.
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
pregnantandsad ( member #40141) posted at 6:02 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
M 7 years, together for 12
2 kids- DD5 & DD 1 1/2
D-Day 7/2013 - Divorced!
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 6:22 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
(((((Sunsets))))) It does suck, honey. Some days, you just have to ride it out. Sending you strength and comfort.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
kg201 ( member #40173) posted at 6:30 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
Hang in there. Maybe it's something in the air...I woke up sad as well.
You'll make it. No doubt.
Me: BH, 40
Her: Ms. Daisy
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, living together
Dday: 7/28/13
Ds17, DS12, DD12
Divorced! 2/24/2015
Apology. You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 6:56 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
It's one of the many dips in the sucky rollercoaster we have all been forced to ride. It won't last and you will be back on top again before you know it. Breathe. Relax. Ride it out and look for a better day tomorrow! It WILL get better!
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
Eyeofthetiger ( member #40359) posted at 7:42 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
Feeling the struggle today as well. Why must we be cursed with a heart while they just get to live life happily? Grrr
XWH left 6/2013
DDay 8/19/2013
Divorce final 7/14/2014
False reconciliation 6/15-8/15
DDay 2 8/29/15
Thefly559 ( member #40268) posted at 10:48 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
This morning I woke up the same. Vicious nightmares , no sleep! But for me I find that if I don't run from it and I dive into it. I feel better. But I know that rollercoaster and it sucks brother. You are not alone. Sitting home when that happens will make it worse. Go to work be around people it will be better soon! " they say".
"respect? you don't deserve it, you won't get any from me unless you earn it"
welcome14 ( member #26741) posted at 12:01 AM on Wednesday, October 16th, 2013
This is going to sound crazy, but research has shown that if you smile, there's a brain recognition in response and you feel a little better. So, the crazy part- when I get to a low dip in the roller coaster, I literally "ride" that son of a bitch roller coaster by doing "roller coaster squats". Hands up in the air at the top yelling WHEEEEEE! while smiling remembering my IRL fave coaster, then squatting at the bottom. The combination of the forced smiling and stupidity of it and the exercise always helps. Try thirty to start with..and make sure you are home alone. Just sayin' 
Hope just visualizing me doing this helped a little, and FWIW, it can scare the dogs, so be careful...
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Bs- me
Someone I used to know- Him
Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx
I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.
Tripletrouble ( member #39169) posted at 12:25 AM on Wednesday, October 16th, 2013
Aw I had a bad day too. Lots of tears, anger, and hurt today. On the upside my IC says when you recognize you are in a dark place, but that it is temporary, this is a sign of emotional maturity. So hang in there knowing a better day waits, and hugs and peace to you.
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Happily remarried 2018
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.
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