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Phoenix1 (original poster member #38928) posted at 7:23 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2013
Today is DD's 17th birthday. POS sent her a card and it was received yesterday. As DD and I sat talking so she could count down to midnight to say it was her official birthday, she very reluctantly decided to open POS's card. Before doing so she looked at me with an eye roll and said, "Really?" That was her reaction to seeing that POS put his old address (our old shared address in my state) as his return address, not his address where he is living now in another state with OW3 and OC. Then she asked, "Does he really think I am that stupid, especially when the postmark is from [current city/state]?" She proceeded to open the card, read it out loud (no words from him, only his signature), take the token cash out of it, get up and said, "Well, I don't need this anymore," and threw the card in the trash.
The POS just keeps digging his grave deeper and deeper with the kids. Unfortunately, I know how much he loves his stupid secret squirrel games, and how he thinks no one can see through them, not even his kids. Lord, I wish he would grow the fuck up already! I am so SICK of his juvenile games!
[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 1:24 PM, October 17th (Thursday)]
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 10:50 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2013
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 10:52 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2013
Phoenix1 (original poster member #38928) posted at 11:32 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2013
DD just texted me to say that POS texted her to tell her happy birthday. She said she texted back that she noticed the return address on the card envelope and does he want to get together for dinner tonight. Her little jab back to him and his games, but it clearly bothers her. So incredibly sad what these idiots do to their own children!!!
ETA: DD said POS texted back, "No, but would love to in the future." Her response to me, "OMG, mom! He doesn't even 'get' sarcasm when it is staring him in the face!" Yeah, I know... 
[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 6:26 PM, October 17th (Thursday)]
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
Gemini71 ( member #40115) posted at 11:33 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2013
(((hugs))) to you and DD. When she looks back on this B-day, your DD will remember sitting up with you, not the lame card from POS.
DSs 21, 16, 12
About my Ex:
IDK
IDC
IDGAF
Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014
Thefly559 ( member #40268) posted at 11:38 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2013
"respect? you don't deserve it, you won't get any from me unless you earn it"
lost4now ( member #21634) posted at 9:18 AM on Friday, October 18th, 2013
He is clueless and I am speechless. Like my STBXH he probably thinks she hasn't caught on to him, he didn't do anything to her and it will all blow over.
As for him not realizing the sarcasm of her comment....not very bright but you already knew that!!!! Sadly, now she sees it too.
BS - ME 43
WH 44
Married 20 years
DDay #1 12/28/07
DDay #2 9/18/08
DDay #3 12/28/08
Dday #4 11/18/10 (same OW)
Dday #5 8/22/12 (same OW)
2 beautiful daughters
"Love grows where it is nurtured and dies where it is not!"
Ashland13 ( member #38378) posted at 2:32 PM on Friday, October 18th, 2013
Watching our children's pain is an additional layer we have to wade through ourselves.
We have some of this going on now and I'm really sorry you're going through it, Phoenix.
FWIW, I hear a lot about kids around yours age having this type of reaction.
My chagrin is that DD here still craves the love and attention from her father, even knowing what he's done, but she's too young to fully comprehend. And he plays on this with selling her unicorn fart land stories.
I'm sorry for each and every kid who has to deal with this stuff...life is difficult enough without more drama.
Ashland 13
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
-George Washington
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