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Dreamland (original poster member #40488) posted at 8:39 AM on Saturday, October 19th, 2013
Well we went to a fund raiser event tonight. My H had submitted a work to be auctioned so we went. His work was awesome one of the top dollar 
Any way my DD and her friend were there and I was talking to DD about one of the auction items. fWH comes over and pulls me away. He says to me she just walked in. I was still on the subject of what object our DD liked so it didn't register. Then he says___ is here. I was like oh crap. We didn't talk about it before because we were sure she wouldn't come. He was good told me I was above her so just let it go... I took in a big breathe and ignored her. I continued with my DD talking. She and her friend were leaving and she's like are you ok. I was yes good just go and have fun and be safe. Then I give her a kiss as she leaves and there she is hovering. I went to mingle and found my Hubby. He tells me he loves me and I look beautiful. He made me feel comfortable though she kept bumping into us. At one point she almost ran me over while staring at my husband as he explained his art to a friend. I just went to him hugged him. And stood next to him. We mingled and met several old aquaintences. And she just kept hovering. She was really trying to push my buttons. I just ignored her and kept moving on. As we were leaving we heard the music and we went to the dance floor with friends. She was there. Kept trying to get my H attention. He didn't even notice she was there. I said let show her how an old married couple in love dance. That made her leave. :)
Victory... It was a good stride towards R. 😇😇😇
[This message edited by Dreamland at 2:39 AM, October 19th (Saturday)]
Me-BS 50 Him-WH 47, DD17
Together since 1993, Married 19 yrs
DDay 3/12,4/12,7/12 EA-PA OW - 25 single husband chasing bastard whore
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 3:46 PM on Saturday, October 19th, 2013
I'm sorry you had to see her.
You and your H handled it beautifully as a team. It made me smile hearing how close you and he are. 
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 3:56 PM on Saturday, October 19th, 2013
I said let show her how an old married couple in love dance. That made her leave. :) Victory... It was a good stride towards R. 😇😇😇
Love it! Good for you, Dreamland.
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
heartache101 ( member #26465) posted at 3:58 PM on Saturday, October 19th, 2013
AWESOME! Gold diggers ugggb.
Glad you both shut her down.
There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing
Gottagetthrough ( member #27325) posted at 5:54 PM on Saturday, October 19th, 2013
LOVE THIS!!! 
You two had a rough patch, and came through stronger. That's what ow saw.
Love your wh's response to the ow, and your response. you sound like you had a great time inspite of ow.
Good Job!!!!
WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 6:01 PM on Saturday, October 19th, 2013
I went to mingle and found my hubby. He told me he loves me and I look beautiful.
Wow...just wow!
"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 8:10 PM on Saturday, October 19th, 2013
Good job, both of you!
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
njgal480 ( member #24938) posted at 8:16 PM on Saturday, October 19th, 2013
What a great story!
Both of you did a great job.
Loved that the OW saw the two of you dancing together at the end of the night.
Me- BS
Him- WH
Long term marriage
D-day- Jan. 2007
5 yr. LTA
Reconciled.
LA44 ( member #38384) posted at 8:28 PM on Saturday, October 19th, 2013
Well done Dreamland and Mr. Dreamland! He told you right away. You were classy and cool. He was demonstrative and you stuck together. Symbolic of the days ahead I hope!
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
Dreamland (original poster member #40488) posted at 1:31 AM on Sunday, October 20th, 2013
Thanks everyone. I have been having some hard times so this really helped us move into the next step of R.
I am hopeful not all is lost. I was very proud of him... Note to self let me go tell him. :)
love you SI...
Me-BS 50 Him-WH 47, DD17
Together since 1993, Married 19 yrs
DDay 3/12,4/12,7/12 EA-PA OW - 25 single husband chasing bastard whore
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