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My hair must look pretty damn good......

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 gonnabe2016 (original poster member #34823) posted at 11:44 PM on Monday, December 30th, 2013

.....because I just received a text from stbx that included an insult about it.

What.Ever.Dude.

"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.

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haysuth01 ( member #29161) posted at 12:01 AM on Tuesday, December 31st, 2013

Uh, he insulted YOUR HAIR?????

Running out of (not) creative insults, are we, Douchetater?

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SBB ( member #35229) posted at 12:03 AM on Tuesday, December 31st, 2013

Can you block his number? Let him send those messages to you via his L to your L.

Or have someone vet them before you see them. Maybe your parents? That might lessen the fuckery.

He's still trying to get free real estate in your head. He's squatting, basically - or trying to.

This is going to sound weird but you are no longer his wife. It is completely inappropriate for him to speak to you this way. There is no more remarks column here for him, IYKWIM?

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 12:17 AM on Tuesday, December 31st, 2013

Seriously?!

I'm curious what profundity he had to offer regarding your hair. Because it must have been SUPER important for him to deign to offer his expertise.

Douchecube. What a pathetic piece of dick-lint.

BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams

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justjim ( member #41150) posted at 12:29 AM on Tuesday, December 31st, 2013

I would wallow in the satisfaction that silliness is all he's got.

Follow your BRAIN.
Your HEART is stupid as shit.

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 gonnabe2016 (original poster member #34823) posted at 12:37 AM on Tuesday, December 31st, 2013

you are no longer his wife

*sigh*

"Technically" I still am his wife.....

He apparently checked the credit card statement and saw my salon expenses (ok, fair enough).......and then made a statement that seems to be accusing me of some type of financial chicanery and then added the hair insult.

In his efforts to make *me* bad he has....

***accused me of being a hypocrite because one time he saw a hotel and redbox charge on the credit card statement. The story he spun in his head, which for some crazy reason made *sense* to him, was that I had driven to a major city to rent a redbox movie and then had driven that redbox movie and some alcohol to a different city that is an hour away from the major city (to a TOTALLY unromantic city) and had a hot tryst. The problem with his scenario is that the hotel charge that he saw was HIS, not mine. He had stayed at that hotel and used the credit card because he had left his business card at the restaurant where he had lunch that day. Convenient case of amnesia on his part.

***turned a potluck dinner that I went to with my kids into me taking them to a *college drinking party.*

***and now this salon shit. I'm not sure if he's insinuating that I'm giving money to my friend who works there or if he thinks I'm having them *overcharge* me and pocketing the cash. (?????) WTF. I have no reason to do either of those things. My friend makes decent money all on her own and I'm not just gonna give her money.....and if I want cash, I'm not going to concoct some grand *scheme* to get cash.....I'm gonna to go to the bank and withdraw it.

o.m.g.

"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.

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 gonnabe2016 (original poster member #34823) posted at 12:38 AM on Tuesday, December 31st, 2013

And just to add a bit of body (no pun intended ) to his text.....he referenced my hair and 'Joe Dirt' in the same sentence.

"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.

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haysuth01 ( member #29161) posted at 12:47 AM on Tuesday, December 31st, 2013

Joe Dirt?? What a moron.

You could compare him to Joe Dirt too... in that he would screw anything, even if she could possibly be his sister.

Just sayin'

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 gonnabe2016 (original poster member #34823) posted at 12:51 AM on Tuesday, December 31st, 2013

.....or my cousin. Just sayin'

"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 12:51 AM on Tuesday, December 31st, 2013

Wow. That is really lame.

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 12:51 AM on Tuesday, December 31st, 2013

Wow. That is really lame.

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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SBB ( member #35229) posted at 2:20 AM on Tuesday, December 31st, 2013

"Technically" I still am his wife.....

Technically I'm still married too. Doesn't make me that fuckers wife. No way. No how. His wife is dead and gone. Thank fuck.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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PurpleRose ( member #33129) posted at 2:23 AM on Tuesday, December 31st, 2013

Well you go girl!

divorced the Dooosh 8/13
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Dance like nobody is watching,
Text and email like it will be used in court someday...

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 gonnabe2016 (original poster member #34823) posted at 2:30 AM on Tuesday, December 31st, 2013

His wife is dead and gone.

Well, yea. The old *yes dear* wife is gone.

We may have separate lives right now, but since there has been no legal death sentence declared....we are still *together*. We will still sign a *joint* tax return, he is still spending family money on his latest bed-warmer, yadayada.

As *separate* as we are, we are still very much entwined.....

"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.

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Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 2:45 AM on Tuesday, December 31st, 2013

Hmmm... you have him rattled. Why else would he be insulting you? It's all about him, and somehow he feels the need to attack you again. He is giving you a glimpse into his pea brain.

Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver

Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie

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 gonnabe2016 (original poster member #34823) posted at 3:05 AM on Tuesday, December 31st, 2013

He's pissed off because I just spent 5 days having an awesome getaway with my 2 youngest kids.

We have season tickets to a pro football team's games and he & I spent about a month fighting over me taking the kids to this game. All I was asking for was ONE game out of the 10 that we had. In the end....I won. He kept telling me that the tickets were *gone* and I kept calling *BULLSHIT*. At the end of the day the tickets showed up on my doorstep....although not in time for my oldest to be able to partake in the experience....which, of course, stbx parlayed into my oldest intentionally not wanting to go with us because of my *controlling* ways due to the *TV incident*

"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.

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tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 3:06 AM on Tuesday, December 31st, 2013

Did you give him the phone number for your local middle school? He apparently texted you by accident since you're a grown-up and wouldn't be affected by that sort of snide comment. He'd make a REALLY good mean girl in seventh grade, though...

FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 3:10 AM on Tuesday, December 31st, 2013

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5gbDgptNlvA

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 4:02 PM on Tuesday, December 31st, 2013

He really is a douchetard.

Seriously. Joe Dirt, that was the best he could come up with?

I am so happy that you spent some funds on yourself, and got your hair did. I hope that Mr. Sultan can find it in his big douchey heart to forgive you for this.

What an ass. I am willing to bet he spends more in a year going to get his hairs cut. I know my H always spent more than me on this until he started shaving his head himself.

Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 5:37 PM on Tuesday, December 31st, 2013

One time Stretch gave me a hard time over money I spent on my hair. The old "I don't give you money so you can make yourself look good for some other dude."

First, I am sure that this comment fell during the rare and not oft repeated time period where any money left his account and wandered into mine.

Second, in his pea brain, I must be screwing someone if I spent money on my hair. Because um, well, the logic escapes me. But salon money = screwing around which of course, is unforgiveable if you have left a WS.

I am so glad he is irritated by every single thing you do and that he has nothing better to do that scrutinize your spending habits!!!

Stupid idiotic wayward thinking. A lego creature makes more sense and is more useful.

Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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