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 StillLivin (original poster member #40229) posted at 10:16 PM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014

Just got off the phone with a friend. She gave me the scoop that SFC Xxxxx's wife stabbed him to death.

SFC Xxxxx was funny, a little to flirty for being a married man, and seemed laid back. I didn't know him very well, but knew who he was. In our field, everybody knew everybody in some fashion or another.

He always gave me the feeling that he was a cheater. Others talked about it. Some were ok with it. Some were more judgmental like me.

Guess his wife wasn't too cool with it. Him cheating didn't shock anybody. Her finally losing it after years of him cheating on her shouldn't have shocked anybody either, but it did some.

This is crazy! And now a nice woman lost it after years of the infidelity abuse, and will spend a long time in prison if she can't plead some kind of mental illness.

I remember her too. She was slight, and timid.

Wow, just crazy.

"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014

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Random thoughts ( member #2959) posted at 10:52 PM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014

Sorry but cheating does not give anyone the right to kill.....she could have and should have divorced him......

Now she will be jailed because of her actions.

Those three words are said too much and not enough.Chasing Cars-Snow Patrol.FWW

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whattheh ( member #40032) posted at 10:55 PM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014

She doesn't have the right to kill over this but this does show how dangerous and destructive cheating and betraying people can be. I do feel sympathy for her if he was cheating because I know my fWH cheating on me caused to feel close to insanity at times.

Retired & now in 60's-M 39 Yrs-DD 2013-TT for 3 yrs (new details incl there had been 3 more MOWs)--all this started with porn use for mid 50s WH (felt he was possessed)~~Cheating and aftermath is huge time waste with high opportunity cost~~

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 StillLivin (original poster member #40229) posted at 10:59 PM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014

Nobody said she had the right to kill.

I'm just not surprised that he drove her crazy. This crap could cause anybody to lose it.

Shame she DIDN'T just leave his cheatinass.

She could have gone on to have a good life. Like I said, just crazy....should have added sad too for the BS. I didn't ever wish bad on SFC Xxxxx, but I can't say he didn't walk into it.

"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014

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wanttogoforward ( member #29912) posted at 10:59 PM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014

I feel bad for her... I think most of us can relate having come close to losing our sanity/ minds... thankfully none of us thought to do this or was quite so far gone as to resort to this... how sad for all involved.

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scarednbroken ( member #41961) posted at 11:17 PM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014

Maybe she was faced with a boat load of impossibilities?

Can you "just divorce" someone? No. You have to hire an attorney, figure out where you are going to live. Get all that in order, file, then wait until the divorce goes through. In that time, the WS may have to live with you if you can't afford a new place to live. Then you are subject to dealing with that person until the D is final, and who gets what is meted out.

If she was abused emotionally or verbally, that makes things harder. People get desperate. I'm not condoning it, I'm just saying, we are all human, and we can only take so much torture and feelings of helplessness before we snap. Some people have a higher tolerance than others....

I feel bad for her.

BS: Me 47 WH: 54 Kids: 17, 19, 21, 32 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for

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outtanowhere ( member #39001) posted at 11:31 PM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014

I am very even tempered. My IC told me I have a high tolerance for stress. I can honestly say that this experience with my recovering SAWH has at times pushed me to the brink of insanity. In some of my more "disturbed" moments, I actually could identify with a few of the episodes of "Snapped".

I hold to the belief that no one has the right to take the life of another person regardless of the circumstances. However, after all of this, I would ask to be excused should I ever find myself sitting on a jury for a case like this.

Me-clueless BS Dday - 2/19/13 "This isn’t flying. It’s falling with style".Buzz Lightyear - Toy Story

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