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FracturedSoul (original poster member #41792) posted at 5:33 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
Morning all,
WH and I had a mini fight last night...anyway, everytime this happens, I start thinking about divorce. Is this normal???
BS-34
FWH-34
Dating since 1997. Married since 2004.
DDay: 12 Sept 2012
4 OW from 2006-2012. Discovered all @ once.
Dday 2: 08 Nov 2014. There was more. Much more.
1Emptyglass ( new member #37548) posted at 6:09 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
Normal for me. We have been trying R for 2+ years and I still wonder if it is a deal breaker for me. Best of luck to you.
Me-BW 44
Him WH 44
OW single 54 co-worker
Married 21 years at d-day
kids: DD21 DS 17
Trying2Survive1 ( member #40022) posted at 6:15 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
Normal for me too. There are still some days I wake up and think I can't deal with the whole situation 
Madhatters, M 37yrs, many DDays
Both 60's, he now has stage 4 bladder cancer and in remission.
We're in solid R, there is hope!
Stop right there: I already don’t give a fuck ~ ty Greeneyesbluezy
iwillNOT ( member #40605) posted at 7:08 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
This happens for me too...then an hour and another conversation later, the feeling goes away. I think it just goes along with the roller coaster. I am starting to get the idea that if I wait it out then usually the" everything is doomed" outlook passes. Of course, it comes back next time
Me: BS, 46
Him: WH, 47
Together 24 years
4 amazing kids
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Choosing myself daily and R almost every
Dreamland ( member #40488) posted at 7:14 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
Normal for me.. Except now he is I'll so I won't divorce him. He has no family here came to this country because of me and so much history I just can't dump him while he's dying. But I think now if he were healthy maybe I would D. He loves me tells me daily he's sorry and how he fucked things up but somehow it just doesn't matter. I say I love you back because I do but I'm not in love with him. He killed that when he cheated.
:(
Me-BS 50 Him-WH 47, DD17
Together since 1993, Married 19 yrs
DDay 3/12,4/12,7/12 EA-PA OW - 25 single husband chasing bastard whore
wert ( member #34478) posted at 2:44 PM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
Yep. Thoughts are just those...thoughts.
take care...
rachelc ( member #30314) posted at 2:57 PM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
Yep daily. A wise poster here says being in the "not divorcing" stage for a while is ok too.
million tears ( member #24416) posted at 3:06 PM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
I do this too. It's just a fleeting thought now, though.
FracturedSoul (original poster member #41792) posted at 3:11 PM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
Thank you for the response everyone...at least I know this is 'normal' for us BS's.
Dreamland...I have often wondered about the loce vs in love thing...I relate to your statement today...feel like I've lost the loving feeling :(
BS-34
FWH-34
Dating since 1997. Married since 2004.
DDay: 12 Sept 2012
4 OW from 2006-2012. Discovered all @ once.
Dday 2: 08 Nov 2014. There was more. Much more.
deena04 ( member #41741) posted at 4:06 PM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
Normal for me, too. I go back and forth sometimes without a fight, just with my own thoughts.
Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.
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