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bluelady (original poster member #11061) posted at 2:36 AM on Saturday, March 15th, 2014
It's not a bad thing. Just...unexpected.
I honestly thought babies weren't in the cards for me. My XH and I were "not careful" for 8 years and I didn't even have as much as a scare. SO and I are "not careful" for 3 months and here we are. (We've been together for 6 years, but have just recently taken birth control off the table).
I have to say, SO reacted much better than I thought he would. Obviously we knew it was possible, with the "not careful" and all, but I really thought he would be a little more panicked. Nope. I panicked for him.
Anyway, it's early days and we're not up for telling people IRL yet, but I had to tell someone, so I came here 
DTERMINED2SURVIV ( member #42294) posted at 2:41 AM on Saturday, March 15th, 2014
Congrats!!! I know the feeling though. Your not as giddy as everyone else yet lol. I feel like the bad guy sometimes
Them "OMG CONGRATS"
Me "Oh yeah, thanks"
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 2:43 AM on Saturday, March 15th, 2014
Congratulations, bluelady! 
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
jrc1963 ( member #26531) posted at 2:46 AM on Saturday, March 15th, 2014
Me: BSO - 56 Him: FWSO - 79 DS - 23 D-Day - 12-11-09, R - he finally came homeYour life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 2:51 AM on Saturday, March 15th, 2014
Congrats bluelady! Sometimes the biggest surprises are the best ones. I didn't plan either of my children, we were so young, but I wouldn't trade them, or the memories, for anything in the world. ((bluelady)) 
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
metamorphisis ( member #12041) posted at 3:24 AM on Saturday, March 15th, 2014
I'm with perservere. Didn't plan my kids, but life planned them for me. And what a wonderful life it is . Congratulations!!
Go softly my sweet friend. You will always be a part of who I am.
little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 3:35 AM on Saturday, March 15th, 2014
Congrats!!
Failure is success if we learn from it.
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 4:02 AM on Saturday, March 15th, 2014
Congrats!!!
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 8:09 PM on Saturday, March 15th, 2014
Congratulations. Glad SO didn't panic ... that should come later, when the size of the task becomes clearer.
We were always careful, and we started planning for our kid after a pregnancy test came back positive. so is that planned or unplanned?
I well remember our quiet ride home after hearing the news - neither of us knew what the other was thinking or feeling, and we were using public transportation, so we couldn't talk freely.
Parenthood turned out to be immensely more joyful than we expected, and I hope it does for you, too.
One kid for us, BTW - we're both first-borns....
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
mainlyinpain ( member #39134) posted at 8:20 PM on Saturday, March 15th, 2014
Congratulations bluelady!
You are entering a whole new world of love!
purplejacket4 ( member #34262) posted at 11:08 PM on Saturday, March 15th, 2014
Congrats!
Rule of thumb I learned in med school;
Penis in vagina equals baby maybe! 
Me: BS 50
Her: FWS 53 (both family med MDs; together 23 years)
OW: who cares (PhD)
Dday: 10/11: 11/11 TT for months; NC 8/12
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Dark Inertia ( member #30727) posted at 12:35 AM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
Omg, congratulations!! I am a year older than you and just threw away the BC pills this last month. I hope I get pregnant just as quickly.
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Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 1:17 AM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
Congratulations!!!
Nothing quite as nice as a sleepy newborn snuggling your shoulder.
Parenting has been one of my greatest joys, I wish you both much joy parenting your baby.
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
jadedheart ( member #32046) posted at 1:44 AM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
Didn't plan our third kiddo. I was 34 when he was born and I swear that kid saved me through all the crap that has happened in the last few years. He can make me laugh no matter what kind of day I am having. I didn't know I wanted a third child, but I am so glad he came along. Sometimes the biggest blessings in life are things we never even knew we wanted.
Congrats!
Me 45
FWH 47
DS11, DD18, DS21(they know nothing about A)
Married 23 years together 25
Dday 09/24/2010
"You can't control how others behave, you can only control your reaction."
bluelady (original poster member #11061) posted at 1:49 AM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
Thanks for the well wishes!
I broke down and told my best friend this afternoon. She was quite excited - probably more-so than I am. My family can be overwhelming (to say the least), so I'm still waiting to tell them. SO isn't very close to his family, so I'll leave the decision to tell them up to him.
If I'm calculating right, I think I'm about 5 weeks along right now. I didn't realize symptoms came on quite this quickly. I had to force myself to eat today. The thoughts of food had my stomach doing flip flops.
Dark Inertia, I'll have my fingers crossed for you!
JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 2:39 AM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
Pass some of that baby dust my way! Congratulations! Pregnancy lasts a long time so you have time to get over the shock & get excited!
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