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norabird (original poster member #42092) posted at 2:56 PM on Friday, April 4th, 2014
Ok I feel kind of embarrassed posting this just as the freshly divorced and battle-weary seem to be shifting over this way...
But this morning a friend divulged that she jumped into bed with someone she's started dating and I am SO. JEALOUS. Oh, and that it was great. I'm happy for her, but also uncomfortable at how this is reminding me what I don't have right now, and that I have no freaking IDEA when I will be ready for it.
When I was single before this whole expeience, it was very very unusual for me to go more than a few weeks without being with someone. Obviously that didn't end up working out for me in the long run, because I think if I had waited with my exWBF I might have passed on him, saving myself a world of pain. And I don't want to rush my healing which is not nearly done yet.
But... 
[This message edited by norabird at 9:13 AM, April 4th (Friday)]
Newlease ( member #7767) posted at 4:09 PM on Friday, April 4th, 2014
Riding the bus sucks - no doubt about it. My primary love language is touch and before I hopped off the bus I was missing it so much.
I started indulging in massages. Not for sexual intimacy, but just for nurturing touch. It helped. That and I kept my BOB batteries stocked. 
Hang in there.
NL
Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.
MadeOfScars ( member #42231) posted at 4:21 PM on Friday, April 4th, 2014
I know the feeling too. I've come to find out I just miss being in a relationship (and all the "fun stuff" that comes with it). It seems like EVERYONE I come in contact with has an SO, and, yeah, I guess I am jealous too.
That said, I know it'd be a mistake to pursue anything like that right now. Hell, my D isn't even final yet. I wish I could just hurry this healing process up, but yeah, all in due time I guess.
Hang in there.
"Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t." - Steve Maraboli
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 4:26 PM on Friday, April 4th, 2014
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
sparkysable ( member #3703) posted at 6:25 PM on Friday, April 4th, 2014
I wouldn't be feeling jealous. I would be wondering WTF she is thinking jumping in to bed with someone she just started dating. But that's just me.
D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 6:31 PM on Friday, April 4th, 2014
((((norabird)))) I'm so proud of you prioritizing your healing. You just cannot go wrong putting yourself first and doing the work. Well done, you. 
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
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