This Topic is Archived
Thella (original poster new member #43236) posted at 2:22 AM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
On the bright side, is there any better diet than the heartbreak diet? I've always been thin but had been struggling to lose the last few remaining baby pounds for a year. Boom - just like that, I'm back in my size 24 jeans and 0-2 dress size. I can go shopping in my own closet and rediscover all the cute things that had gotten a smidgen too tight - in addition to the new things I've acquired in my post-affair shopping spree. Ironic that the girl my husband cheated with was twice my size. To think of all the extra helpings of dessert I could have treated myself to over the years if only I had known he was into that sorta thing. Sometimes, I think I'm more mad about all those missed opportunities for cake. Lol. At least I haven't lost my ability to laugh at myself and the world around me.
P.S. I'm still up and down, but hopeful. H has been genuinely remorseful, has maintained NC, and we both believe we can get our marriage to a stronger place than it's ever been. There is still much love between us, so I am hopeful - but wisely wary - that we can make it work.
[This message edited by Thella at 8:25 PM, May 1st (Thursday)]
justinpaintoday ( member #42858) posted at 2:25 AM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
Good for u. What r u doing to heal u and the M
I never realized you could be in this much pain and not be dying.
Thella (original poster new member #43236) posted at 2:31 AM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
We've had countless discussions in which he's seemed remorseful and totally committed to making this work. We have our second MC session this weekend. As for myself, I've stopped allowing myself to dwell on or hate the other woman. When she pops into my mind, I remind myself that she was insignificant. I enjoy time with my baby boy, my family, friends, reading, and TV. I am committed to making this work, but if he does not live up to his end, I know that I am a strong, beautiful (not trying to sound vain - I'm sorry if it does) intelligent young woman and I'll be ok.
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 3:26 AM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
You are doing incredibly well Thella. And yes--the I diet is a minor benefit! Probably the only time in my life I just haven't cared about eating or not struggled to exercise restraint.
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 5:00 PM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
Yeah, I loved being able to get into my cute jeans again! I love those jeans! Unfortunately, I let the weight creep back on and now am eating mostly Vegan/Vegetarian to try to drop the rest of the weight as well as upping my workouts.
Laugh when you can. Laughter helps ease the soul.
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Chinadoll30 ( member #43131) posted at 5:44 PM on Friday, May 2nd, 2014
Yup! DS is only 9 months. Thanks, dad, for fuckin around while I was at home nursing, but back into a size 2. So at least if I leave your ass, I'll look good doing it!
"We must see all scars as beauty. Okay? This will be our secret. Because take it from me, a scar does not form on the dying. A scar means 'I survived'." -Chris Cleave
This Topic is Archived
