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I have the jewelry which he gave me that I took to the pawn shop and was told it was worth nothing. He said it was so expensive(why am I surprised) but when I tried to sell it for cash, I couldn't. So, should I send it to him out of state or should I wait to give it back the next time I see him.

I also have his Bible. I think his empty soul might need it.

Did you guys give back the gifts?

Nope.

The most I've given back is pictures of the kids.

Trash it, pass it on to some kids, donate it to Good Will, save it in a box for when you're feeling stronger.. I don't know, but I suggest you do NOT give it back to him.

They aren't his anyway, and it's not a good reason to contact him..

I like that guy with the blog and book called 101 uses for my ex-wife's wedding dress. He's pretty funny. He's used the dress in many hilarious ways. Like a Christmas tree skirt, a sports team banner, a scarecrow.

I wonder how many creative ways you could use the jewelry....?

Haha, no. That stuff is mine. I didn't take back gifts I gave him, why give back gifts he gave me. He had good taste in jewelry, I still wear it. The meaning is gone, but the sparkle is still there. He also gave me small appliances, that I use regularly. They are useful and practical, why not use them to make my life more comfortable?

Hell no! That's your stuff to do with as you please. Unless he offers you the opportunity to ram it up his puckered bud one piece at a time, there's no reason to involve him at all.

No no no and no.

Look just because stores won't buy it from you doesn't mean it's worth nothing. The recession is here to stay and pawn shops are flooded with brand name high end stuff. You might have decent stuff but they aren't going to take up space in their case if it's not on their level.

Do you know what kind of stones and metal it is? Do you still have the papers? Do you have a cheap kitchen scale to weigh it?

I sell stuff on ebay. It's not as hard as you think. You won't get a ton of money but you can sell it. Take a lot of photos and describe it to the best of your ability. Look at other listings to get an idea of what to include in your description.

If you're talking about fine jewelry with smaller stones, like a tennis bracelet, it's going to be just a little money but still more than nothing.

Good luck. Personally I say sell it. But don't give it back, I found that any contact was just cause for him to start drama with me.

So what about the Bible? It has his name on it " Asshit and Family" I use it a lot but I feel like I should give it back to him and buy another one for me. I can't throw away The Bible.

The jewelry, I will give to my sister. It's not particular my taste but wore it to please him. When I took it to the shop I was told that it was gold-cotted but not pure gold.

Instead of taking the jewelry to a pawn shop, take it to a shop that buys silver & gold. They'll weigh it and pay you what it's worth. I live in the city and there are probably 8 of those shops around here.

I would send back the Bible. I would donate the jewelry. I got one necklace from stbx that I threw away because I personally felt I could not donate it or give to someone since it possessed negative/ugly energy.

I would dump the jewellery over a bridge into a river somewhere.

I also have worthless jewellery plan to do the same thing with it but always have the kids and I need to be alone to do it. I feel like the jewellery has bad juju so the money (if any) gained would also be tarnished. But that's my opinion.

I would donate the bible to a goodwill.

Double post.

[This message edited by Kajem at 6:55 AM, May 27th (Tuesday)]

Did this bible mean something to him, once upon a time?

How long has he been out of the house? Has he asked for it?

If you have contact I might as him if he wants it.

If he recently moved out- I would box it up as if I was going to mail it. In the place where postage would go if put a date 6 months from now. If he forgot it, and asks - you can send it. If he doesn't ask in that time frame, then you can donate it.

Salvation Army and many homeless shelters are always looking for bibles.

Gifts - not his property.

Read your follow up post. Buy a bible for yourself!!! There are so many choices out there. Indulge yourself and take your time in selecting the perfect bible for you.

Hugs,

K

I would probably give the bible back, seeing as it's a family thing. It might mean something to someone in his family (see if they want it?).

The jewelry, if it's any sort of gold, sell it for scrap. That's what I did. If it's costume, cerimoniously throw it away. Again, that's what I did.

Hell no! I figured I'd earned it. He deserves nothing. I would have thrown something away before I would ever give him anything.

Google "[your city name] estate jeweler " and try selling the ring there.

Even worthless is worth more than the postage to send it back to him.

The Bible has his name on it. I can't give it to anyone even Salvation Army unless they tear the page which I don't think is the right thing to do.

He's been out of the house for 15 months now. I've been using it ever since.

I left my wedding rings and a beautiful diamond necklace stbxh gave me this past Christmas (the necklace was supposed to represent the enduring bond of our love ) Wishing now that I had kept them to sell...going to take every penny I have to start over fresh.

Pass thank you for the much needed laugh!

Unless he offers you the opportunity to ram it up his puckered bud one piece at a time, there's no reason to involve him at all.

I was given a bracelet for Christmas just gone that does not represent anything I cherish. I don't not want my girls to have it either.

I am tossing up either spelling it in eBay, or leaving it on a park bench for someone to "find". Not sure which one yet

Gifts? What is this word "gifts" that you speak of???