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marlie2014 (original poster member #40981) posted at 10:43 PM on Friday, June 6th, 2014
That's how I've been feeling ever since the ex and I went to divorce court. Without even realizing I was doing it, I was losing weight (in a healthy way by making better food choices and working out, not because of stress) and suddenly clothes I hadn't worn in a while fit me again, and I got a few new ones besides. I started taking more time in the mornings to get ready for work and began wearing my high heels again.
Don't get me wrong -- I didn't "let myself go" while I was married -- but I definitely sank into a depression towards the end of the marriage when I didn't know what was wrong that caused me to dress in darker colors, get less sleep, and just not shine quite as brightly if you know what I mean.
Now, people are frequently commenting that I'm "glowing," or that they "like how I look today," etc. I've never thought of myself as beautiful, but it feels nice to keep getting all these compliments.
On Wednesday, I wore a new blouse that I found when I went shopping on Memorial Day. Three total strangers told me that day (two women, one man) that I had beautiful eyes...one of the ladies even said they were "blazing." And I had wondered if the blouse had been a good choice or not, but I'm definitely wearing it again, and soon! Ha ha
I didn't know where I could express these happy feelings, and then I realized that this was the perfect place for it. New beginnings, right? 
I know I'm not ready to date yet, but all the same it's good to be alive and free and looking your best, isn't it? 
Married: 9 years
1 stepchild
DDay: 9/2/2013
DIVORCED AND FREE!!!!
fireproof ( member #36126) posted at 1:44 PM on Saturday, June 7th, 2014
I think you found your mojo back!
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 5:22 PM on Saturday, June 7th, 2014
I have goose bumps from this post!
You look fabulous because your power is shining through. You are rocking the surviving part of this!!
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 6:27 PM on Saturday, June 7th, 2014
What a great post! You're inspiring marlie!
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
marlie2014 (original poster member #40981) posted at 3:21 PM on Tuesday, June 10th, 2014
Thanks!
I feel kind of like this now: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=39YUXIKrOFk
LOL 
No, but really, being free of the Rat is so liberating, it makes me want to strut!
Married: 9 years
1 stepchild
DDay: 9/2/2013
DIVORCED AND FREE!!!!
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 5:39 PM on Tuesday, June 10th, 2014
I love this! You're finding yourself again and realizing how beautiful she is, and others are responding to that.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 8:01 PM on Tuesday, June 10th, 2014
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
EvenKeel ( member #24210) posted at 8:37 PM on Tuesday, June 10th, 2014
That was one of the most surprising things during the D....was one day looking into the mirror and actually seeing someone I had not seen in a long time.
(Granted....I was not "blazing".... 
...but I definitely know what you mean)
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