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fireproof (original poster member #36126) posted at 12:13 PM on Thursday, July 10th, 2014
Do some of you feel like something is wrong with you for your ex to have left?
I am told to let it go and I do but when I feel the possibility of a future I feel this is my subconscious speaking and I don't know if my relationship can work.
Someone said my SO will eventually leave which I don't want because of this thought but if what the person says is true how do I let that small voice go that says eventually he will discover me and leave too?
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 11:25 PM on Thursday, July 10th, 2014
Whoever told you that about your SO sounds pretty toxic. I know it's hard but try not to let it get to you.
(((fireproof)))
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 10:35 PM on Friday, July 11th, 2014
Can you name the qualities that YOU really like about yourself? What are you good at? What kind of friend are you?
Now. Why wouldn't someone be happy to partner with that?
Trust your SO. He chose you, chooses to remain with you. Unless he is a martyr or into self punishment, you must have some positive qualities that he finds worth the effort.
Shut down that voice that has negative projections in it.
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
fireproof (original poster member #36126) posted at 1:14 PM on Saturday, July 12th, 2014
Thank you for the advice. I will try - it is hard when things go well in a blink you realize someone like the OW or maybe it is something else can take it all away.
I am going to make a stronger effort to let it go. 
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