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[This message edited by Roblox83525 at 9:22 AM, October 10th (Tuesday)]

[This message edited by Roblox83525 at 9:23 AM, October 10th (Tuesday)]

So your lifestyle is such that you frequent strip clubs and blow money on said strippers to the point that you guys come up short financially. Your wife isn’t happy and threatens to become a stripper/cam whore and you are mad at your wife?

What do you expect? You have sent a horrible message to your wife(and whole family really) by being married and frequenting strip clubs ,spending a significant amount of money on them.

How do you think your wife old react if you quit going to strip clubs ,being more responsible with your finances, start valuing women in general and your marriage vows ? If you want to live the strip club lifestyle get a divorce and be happy.

Always entertaining. I didn't read it all though.

When's the next chapter?

I would never stay married to someone who enjoys being a regular at a strip club. You are lucky to have a wife, but you clearly don't see it that way. You both need lots of help. Good luck.

Stop being a regular at a strip club. Or any club or bar. You're all done with that. Forever. If you can do that, I don't even know. Your poor wife. She has lost it because of you. Now you have change and help her. You're not and she's crashing and burning. If my WH went to any bar alone, I'd be beyond livid.

Always entertaining. I didn't read it all though.

When's the next chapter?

Do you really not see a problem with not having money to buy groceries for the family because you spent the money at a strip club?

I agree with No Mercy's spot-on and pithy take. But just in case:

In my opinion, being a prostitute or stripper is a terrible lifestyle choice, but does not harm others, and therefore is far more moral than being an unrepentant cheater, as cheating does harm others. So don't look for sympathy here.

But in any event--you are either both dysfunctional to begin with or you are literally driving the poor woman to insanity. I suggest you work on fixing yourself and see if that helps the situation.

This whole scenaro is fucked up. You and your wife need some serious help. An equally fucked question that I have is, why didn't you let your wife go do her thing to try to recoup some funds so she could get grocery money while you stayed home and looked after your children. You're obviously a frequent customer, spending the family money on women who are most likely stripping to feed their kids, feed their drug addiction, or whatever. So why have a problem with it if your wife does it?

And you left your kids in the hands of a neighbor. Left them exposed to possible abuse and molestation. To go chasing after her. See how even THAT is fucked up?!

Yall deserve each other and the drama that comes along with it but I strongly advise you both to put those kids in the care of family members who can guide and parent them lovingly. Obviously you both are a hot mess and those innocent kids don't deserve this. They're the only ones I feel sorry for.

While I'd likely be embarrassed at my partners behavior, I'd be far more so at my inability to buy food for my children because I spent all my money on strippers.

I think you'll find it a lot more effective if you focus on your own integrity and behavior. No judgement here, just observation and experience. I've acted, and continue to do so at times, like an ass myself

Nothing of this story is true.

If it is. Disgusting behavior, spending 240 dollars on strippers instead of feeding your children.

Not being able to feed her children has pushed many mothers over the edge.

I am calling fake, fake, fake.

So...how many kids toys could you by with $240?

And i dont buy the 'i needed something for me' bullshit about going either. When you fully support your family AND there are ZERO financial worries THEN you can do something for you... and it shouldn't be something that risks your family's stability.

You got an obligation to be a good role model for your kids. I get it--i wasnt a good person before i had kids. That part of me is still in there kicking and screaming and calling me domesticated. But i owe it to my kids to be better. Or pretend I'm someone else who is better than i really am until they're out of the house on their own...and then i can let the mask go. Either way. Maybe it'll stick and I'll be accepted by high society and handed a nice fat bank account. Maybe they'll leave and I'll quit my shitty desk job and become the lecherous drunk my inner 20 yr old wants.

Doesn't matter because SHIT i will be there for my kids dammit or I'll die trying.

Capiche?

[This message edited by Roblox83525 at 9:55 AM, October 10th (Tuesday)]

[This message edited by Roblox83525 at 9:23 AM, October 10th (Tuesday)]

So when you say you're staying home, you mean no more strip clubs?

What's your plan when work buddies wanna go?

[This message edited by Notthevictem at 9:25 AM, October 7th (Saturday)]

[This message edited by Roblox83525 at 9:24 AM, October 10th (Tuesday)]

So....you just post but don't respond?

I guess for a dude who thinks strippers are his friends and spends his money on them unstead of groceries his family needs, my expectations of getting through weren't too high to begin with.

Let me know when you're ready to change.

So what happened in the champagne room?

The strippers have your phone number?

And now everyone, including you,is making fun of her?

Your wife is a ho? But not the strippers?

You're embarrassed and angry? How do you think she feels? Her husband is a regular at a slut bar, and clearly prefers anyone other than her.

Divorce her. You don't love her. You don't like her.

You've mentioned you're a great dad. You're not. Not even close. You spend money you don't have,which equates to no food for your kids, on strippers. You're ok with your kids going without, for a few minutes alone with a whore.

Your wife is reacting the way she is, because your continued lies and cheating have pushed her over the edge. And rather than caring about her, you vilify and make fun of her. Everyone is on your side? You mean the whores you pay, and friends who think cheating on your wife is cool.

Disgusting.

[This message edited by HellFire at 11:08 AM, October 7th (Saturday)]