Then middle of last year she moved down to live with me, which was great for a while and then she started to complain about not having a job and if she didn’t get one she would move back to Perth etc, then we started to fight and when I came back from work one day she had moved out of the main bedroom and into one of my spare rooms where she is now, because she says I move around too much and it wakes her up and she gets annoyed, but she will visit me for intimacy on regular occasions.
Well she got a job and absolutely loves it, she leave home at 5am and is supposed to finish at 2pm and has been there for the last 7 months.
Earlier this year a friend of mine came over from New South Wales and stayed a couple of days and of course we were having a few drinks when the GF made a comment about being fat (she’s 5ft 2 and a size 10), my friend told her she wasn’t and to lift her t-shirt up to show her stomach which she obliqued, I thought it was a bit strange but she only raised it to show her stomach, she showered shortly after that and came out just in a dressing gown with nothing underneath it and sat at the dining table not saying anything. We both ignored her until I told her to go to bed which she did and went back to my room. When I went to bed at 1am she wanted to have sex, during this session she mentioned to me that she wanted to have oral sex with my friend and I said no it wasn’t going to happen. I bought this up with her next morning with her and once again she said she couldn’t remember it so it was another blackout. I have asked her if she wanted to do the swinging thing and she was horrified that I mentioned it and verbatenly denies having any thoughts of it.
Well over the last few months she claims that she has to work back at her work and gets overtime, instead of finishing at 2 she is getting home at 5.30pm most days, she is always talking about the guys that work there and one guy that gives her vegetables all the time and how nice he is . She is very sly on her mobile phone and gets messages a lot but I can’t see who as she guards her phone and she only gave me her passwords when she wanted me to put some apps and programs on her phone and computer she then changed them since. She will once or maybe twice a month drive 2 hours to go to Perth to see her daughter but will only tell me briefly what she does when she’s up there except that she seems to watch a hell of a lot of TV with her daughter. With her drinking she will say that she will stop and be a teetotaller but a couple of nights later she’ll come home with a 6 pack of UDL’s or a bottle of wine and then after a couple berate me about anything. She is currently going through menopause and blames being emotional on that. When I call her via the phone I will always say I love you at the end and once in a blue moon she will reciprocate with the same.
Well sorry for my vent and I hope I make sense but It’s 1AM and I’ve been tossing and turning for the last week and trying to get things off my chest, I’ve basically answered my own doubts about what she possibly could be doing, I just needed to put it down on paper and being bitten several times now, the flags are definitely up. I will continue to monitor the situation and confront when the time is right.
