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BearlyBreathing (original poster member #55075) posted at 3:12 AM on Thursday, September 13th, 2018
So I had the triple whammy of job loss, marriage destroyed by infidelity and a non-remorselful WH, and my house lost in the wildfires. I was a MESS. But I just got a GREAT new job and things are decidedly getting more positive.
1) New job is perfect and does not require me to move
2) I actually forgot 2nd anniversary of D-Day. Didn’t realize it had passed for a few days and then wasn’t even upset.
3) Read a book. Straight through. For me this is HUGE. I was a voracious reader and the shitstorm completely took my ability to read and concentrate from me. It’s back! Into my third book and looking forward to catching up on all those books I missed!
4) Off all drugs... no more sleeping pills, no more Lexapro.
5) Was asked on a date. By a guy who was at least 15 years younger. (And blind apparently! 
). But hey, it’s a start.
So just have to lose the weight that bounced back on after the infidelity diet and I will be good to go.
I got this. 
🐻
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Chili ( member #35503) posted at 3:26 AM on Thursday, September 13th, 2018
Oh man Bearly - I am so so tickled to read this post of yours.
I've been noticing lately the amazing shift in your voice/spirit - all of these landmarks affirm the why and how.
Look at your resilience.
Look at your new focus.
Look at feeling able to be off the sauce.
Look at your new gig.
And just look at your fine ass cougaring self. (And yeah, he was all looking too. Like you apparently need to give a...about some damn bounce back weight or what the..eva).
I just love this post.
Kudos to you and thanks for sharing your newfound voice with so many around here.
2012 pretty much sucked.
Things no longer suck.
Took off flying solo with the co-pilot chili dog.
"Life teaches you how to live it if you live long enough" - Tony Bennett
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 1:01 PM on Thursday, September 13th, 2018
Congrats!!!!
One step after another. Getting your power back and using it!
You are damn right.... YOU got this!!!
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
traicionada ( member #10310) posted at 2:24 PM on Thursday, September 13th, 2018
Woohoo! 
Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...
josiep ( member #58593) posted at 2:31 PM on Thursday, September 13th, 2018
I wish I was you! Especially the being able to read again. But I keep buying books cuz I know it'll come to me someday.
I still can't put tv on but I really miss watching football so maybe I can ease back into tv with a couple of games this weekend.
Congrats to you and I'm so very happy that the stars aligned and you were smart enough to line up with them. Takes a lot of courage and perseverance and you've proven you have plenty of both. Kudos to you.
BW, was 67; now 74; M 45 yrs., T 49 yrs.DDay#1, 1982; DDay#2, May, 2017. D July, 2017
thatbpguy ( member #58540) posted at 2:52 PM on Thursday, September 13th, 2018
Sorry you lost the house. Ouch! But aside from that, nice to see you looking up and getting some attention. And, yes, you are now a cougar.
ME: BH Her: WW DDay 1, R; DDay 2, R; DDay 3, I left; Divorced Remarried to a wonderful woman
"There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind." C.S. Lewis
As a dog returns to his vomit, so a fool repeats his folly...
lilies21 ( member #35833) posted at 4:29 PM on Thursday, September 13th, 2018
I got this.
Heck yeah, you do!
I'm sorry you lost your home to the fires, how devastating on top of everything else. I hope you've landed somewhere even better that you can call yours!
And just look at your fine ass cougaring self. (And yeah, he was all looking too. Like you apparently need to give a...about some damn bounce back weight or what the..eva
^^This!
Me: BS, 30s.
One son.
Many D-Days for excessive porn, Craigslist ads, and EAs/PAs.
Happily divorced since September 2015.
3kids30years ( member #38879) posted at 4:39 PM on Thursday, September 13th, 2018
THAT IS AWESOME!!!
Congrats on ALL of it.
I'm still trying to read a book - I read every night, and after Dday - nothing. 5.5 years.
BW - 52 on Dday
WH - 53 on Dday
DDay - 3/2/13 - 2:07pm 2+ year EA/PA
TT until 2016 - why do they do that?
Trust is earned, respect is given, & loyalty is demonstrated. Betrayal of any one is to loose all three.
xswimmer ( member #44867) posted at 5:04 PM on Thursday, September 13th, 2018
I noticed the same thing happened to me with books. I have always been a voracious reader (over 100 books/year).
I maybe read 6 per year during the time leading up to the divorce.
The fact that most of them are mysteries is OK, easy reading is relaxing and escapism for me.
Congratulations on the job, date, and independence from supportive medicines!
For weight loss I recommend My Fitness Pal, was a great help to me.
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 8:04 PM on Thursday, September 13th, 2018
Awesome update! Congrats!
Onward and upward!
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 8:14 PM on Thursday, September 13th, 2018
Abso-effing-lutely amazing comeback from your triple whammy! I'm so sorry you were hit by all of that at all, let alone any where near together. Any one of them is a huge setback, but you SURVIVED them ALL! I love this post and your attitude!
I'm another who could not read a book through until recently. Finished *two* novels recently. The only other books I had read since DDay were some recommended here or by IC and most of them I only took the parts that applied - except "Why Does He Do That?". Read that one TWICE because it applied all the way through! 
[This message edited by thebighurt at 2:15 PM, September 13th (Thursday)]
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
risingfromashes ( member #3903) posted at 1:04 PM on Saturday, September 15th, 2018
This is fantastic! Thank you for posting this. You give hope for those in trenches and remind us all of how resilient all of us are!
Sooo happy for you!
Wool94 ( member #53300) posted at 11:33 AM on Monday, September 17th, 2018
D-Day #1: April 7, 2016
D-Day #2: May 21, 2016
D-Day #3: June 7, 2016
Me: 1975
Her:WW (amn8r) 1981
Son 2006
Daughter 2009
"God not only loves you, but He actually likes you. "-Stephen Hooks
"My faith is mine now."
better4me ( member #30341) posted at 4:23 PM on Monday, September 17th, 2018
Yea! I hope it turns out to be the best job ever!!
Did you say yes to the date??
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
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