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I've heard that my EXWW (we are divorced after 2 yrs, DD was roughly 2 yrs ago) and the AP who are still together go to therapy together. They are forcing our kids, mine and his to go on trips together. Keep in mind, my EXWW does have a good chunk of cash from the settlement, so I'm not too surprised that leach is latching on.

But does anyone elses EXWW/WH and their affair partners seem to try super hard to make their fake lurve last? I mean, going to therapy together before we finalize the D. Forcing the kids on each other. Going on vacations and introducing to family.... It seems a bit forced, at least thats what I think. Its like they both need to validate their poor decisions.

It seems like they have no clue IMO.

Less than 2 years in time and they are making it “one big happy family”.

What do your children think and how old are they?

1stWife, they've been trying to get the kids together from the very beginning, but I know the they've been pushing hard now that the divorce has finalized. It was finished just a month ago. So really, its been 1 month and they are trying to make it one big happy family.

My kids the other kids are in therapy. They are fairly young, but I know they don't like it. They do share with me.

It just smells like desperation on their part to make everything work out.

They want to believe they are good people. They want to believe their decisions did not harm their children and they are good parents. If all are one big happy family then in their mind this is true.

My xW and her AP lasted 7 years. She then cheated on him and left him for another guy. My kids also believe the last child she had with him is not his.

I don't know about you but I have never really been able to make any sense of what my xW did or is doing now. I wish you the best of luck in that.

My DDay was a little over three years ago and my divorce was finalized a little less than 2 1/2 years ago. My exWW married her AP within a month of the divorce being final because she was heavily pregnant with his kid and didn't want the stigma of a child born outside wedlock - as if that somehow makes a marriage that began with adultery less of a joke.

I don't know a ton about their marriage since I don't interact with exWW unless it's to do with co-parenting and OM knows to stay out of my sight, but my daughter talks about my exWW and her "friend OM" a lot and it would seem things aren't fantastic at home. OM is clearly attempting to buy my daughter's love by showering her with toys and other gifts he can't afford as the boy barely makes more than minimum wage. I also found out from my former BIL that they sought out marriage counseling at their church (her family is devoutly Christian and doesn't believe in secular counseling) at the insistence of exWW's parents but were rejected because the church considers their marriage invalid in the eyes of God.

I'm curious to see how long they last. Part of me is happy that her current joke of a marriage is a resounding failure, but a much bigger part of me is upset that my daughter has to spend half her time living in that fucked up environment. Ultimately I want them to get their shit together and be a functional couple for my daughter's sake. The last thing she needs is to be put through yet another divorce and god forbid her mother take up with yet another man after that.

Doing this before the divorce is final is creepy. It is very forced. The harder they try the worse it will be. They are still trying to create a Fantasy. I agree with all posters in the thread so for. It is so obvious as to be sad and sickening at the same time.

Ripped and Firenze, it is indeed creepy, and a mess for the kids. If not for the kids, I'd really not give a crap what they do. It just seems to me that it is so forced and desperate.

If you have to start your relationship out with counseling, good God, those are the easy and happy days. Counseling is for later when things break down. I guess who can blame my exWW, and that POS, they started the affair and ruined two families, all while POS wife was 8 months pregnant. They need more than IC, they need to go to church and beg for forgiveness. I'm sure they are a mess, although I don't stay in contact with her save for the kids, so she'll never reveal it to me.

Just think 6 kids, all under 10, and one thats still in bottle and diapers! That cannot be fun. And my ex never liked anyone elses kids, now she has to play mommy to 4 new ones. LOL

A friend of mines w and AP pulled this before the D was even filed. You have to wonder what therapist would even listen to this shit. But I guess as long as there's dollars.......

You know, I actually have nothing against premarital counseling for couples that are ostensibly fine and well-matched. I think it can help you avoid landmines you might otherwise step on at some point down the roads - not because of deception or anything like that, but due to something as simple as overlooking an issue you didn't think was important until it was. The church I grew up in encouraged premarital counseling partially for these reasons and it was offered freely to any engaged couple in the congregation that was interested.

But with situations like my exWW and the OM? How are they supposed to therapy their way through the fact that one is a weasel and the other is a whore and their marriage is built on a foundation of lies and betrayal?

Firenze, agreed. I also went to premarital counseling, not thru the church, but we decided to do this on our own once we got engaged to speak about the potential future hazards like kids, and parents as they age. I too would recommend it in a normal circumstance.

In the scenario I've depicted, I just feel like its so phony, and it feels like they're trying so hard. What couple needs counseling 6 months into their relationship. This started last yr, way back when they got together and I just barely found out about the affair. Plus, who knows how honest they are with the IC.

If you have to go to couples counseling 6 months in on a new relationship, damn, that seems like that would be a struggle for the long term.

Trying so hard

How about a WW who cheated on her BH for 18 months then told him and asked for D to be with POSAP

AP left his wife and moved with WW

she posted about how happy she is, how APs family and kids love her and how they are still going strong after 3 years-18months affair and 12 relationship -

But the funniest thing she posted was how she wakes up early every day to take a shower and put makeup on because she doesn't want prince charming to see her with out makeup

Max, you still see your exWWs feed? Ive long ditched her and her family on any media and I'm not really on there anyway.

The fact that she post about her affair relationship is pretty funny. These people are just strange. Sometimes they need so much affirmation its best the relationship ended. Strong partners don't need constant external validation.

No no not my story

I had the misfortune to read this crap in anthor fourm she came to update and brag

I lough so hard, she sooo was coco