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cocoplus5nuts (original poster member #45796) posted at 1:46 PM on Friday, December 13th, 2019
I went to my first one last night. It was amazing! It felt so good to talk to other people face to face who knew what I have experienced and how I felt. It was like talking to older friends. I could be completely open and honest. I didn't have to pretend.
Me(BW): 1970
WH(caveman): 1970
Married June, 2000
DDay#1 June 8, 2014 EA
DDay#2 12/05/14 confessed to sex before polygraph
Status: just living my life
RippedSoul ( member #40055) posted at 2:20 PM on Friday, December 13th, 2019
Wonderful news! That’s how I felt at S-Anon meetings. First time I could be completely, appropriately, therapeutically honest.
RS
BW: 55; SLAWH: 52; M: 28 yrs
DD#1--11/30/12 (prostitute 1)
DD#2--1/29/13 (WH confessed: P1, AP, escorts 1 & 2)
DD#3--9/13 (trolling MILF site)
DD#4--10/8/13 (EA with AP cont'd)
DD: 26; DD: 24; DS: 22; DS: 20
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Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 2:39 PM on Friday, December 13th, 2019
coco
so happy u found an irl tribe!!
I have heard of this but there is nothing like it around where I currently am.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
cocoplus5nuts (original poster member #45796) posted at 2:51 PM on Friday, December 13th, 2019
Shehawk, they do seem to be few and far between. There are 3 meetings in my area, but I think 2 of them are too far for me to drive. The one closer to me doesn't meet very often. It might pick up now that there's one more person interested in going regularly. 
You might be able to host one yourself.
[This message edited by cocoplus5nuts at 6:25 PM, December 13th (Friday)]
Me(BW): 1970
WH(caveman): 1970
Married June, 2000
DDay#1 June 8, 2014 EA
DDay#2 12/05/14 confessed to sex before polygraph
Status: just living my life
Healinghappens ( new member #63348) posted at 5:29 PM on Friday, December 13th, 2019
BAN meetings help you to heal, meeting others and sharing takes you out of isolation and that feeling of no one understands. On the Beyond Affairs Network website, you can apply to become a coordinator for your area if a BAN Group does not exist. I did that, and hosting the group has not only helped me, but has been a blessing for others walking through this chaos. Become a volunteer Coordinator, it’s simple and worth it.
steadychevy ( member #42608) posted at 6:14 PM on Friday, December 13th, 2019
There's a BAN group in Green Bay. I went to 2 different ones for a couple of years. They were 2 hours driving time away. It was well worth it. I would have kept going except the group stated using Facebook instead of Meetup for meetings and communication. I don't do any social media.
For those that are looking google Beyond Affairs Network then click on the adultery support tab (can't remember the exact name). There will be a list of countries on the left had side. Choose yours, then the state or province to find the city.
Small face to face support group with people at various stages past DDay.
BH(me)72(now); XWW 64; M 42 yrsDDay1-01/09/13;DDay2-26/10/13;DDay3-19/12/13;DDay4-21/01/14LTA-09/02-06/06? OM - COW 4 years; "dates" w/3 lovers post engagement;ONS w/stranger post commitment, lies, lies, liesSeparated 23/09/2017; D 16/03/2020
MoreThanBroken ( member #62463) posted at 10:01 PM on Saturday, December 14th, 2019
I've been going to BAN meetings for the last 2 years, an excellent support group for all BS if available!
Me: BS Her: WW - Sayuwontletgo
Married 14 Years, 3 Kids
DDay: Oct. 14, 2017
3yr LTA, Found out years later
AP was a friend
fournlau ( member #71803) posted at 1:55 AM on Sunday, December 15th, 2019
I'm trying to start going to these, but haven't heard back. Not sure if my email got through, as the first time I responded it wasn't delivered. I tried again and it seems to have gone through, but still haven't heard back. I think it would be a great help to talk face to face with real people who have been there.
cocoplus5nuts (original poster member #45796) posted at 3:27 AM on Sunday, December 15th, 2019
Me(BW): 1970
WH(caveman): 1970
Married June, 2000
DDay#1 June 8, 2014 EA
DDay#2 12/05/14 confessed to sex before polygraph
Status: just living my life
Emotionalhell ( member #39902) posted at 7:35 PM on Sunday, December 15th, 2019
The Closest meeting for me is 2 1/2 hours away.
Me BS x2. 50ish Divorced WH #1. IHS with wayward #2 Dday #1 Oct. 2014Dday # 2 August 2018. Dday #3 December 17th.
ElizabethC ( member #70570) posted at 3:21 PM on Monday, December 16th, 2019
Thanks for posting this. I emailed our group yesterday and hope to go next month.
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