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hurt83 (original poster new member #53661) posted at 12:07 AM on Tuesday, September 8th, 2020
I found out 5 yrs ago that my wh cheated. He was very remorseful and a great father and all the other excuses as to why I stayed. It hasnt been the greatest over the years, but we made it work. On Saturday, I was on his phone bc my battery died. I googled something and his past searches popped up.... he had been looking around for escorts in our area. Im done! I had a well paying job that i got laid off from and I havent been able to find anything that remotely pays what that one did. Im going to have to restart my entire life! I dont have supportive family that will help me out with the kids til I get on my feet! I hate this! Im trapped!
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phmh ( member #34146) posted at 12:16 AM on Tuesday, September 8th, 2020
(((hurt))) look at the long game. You are in the process of positioning yourself for great happiness down the road. I'd also lost my job right at time of divorce, and things worked out. You've got this.
Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 12:25 AM on Tuesday, September 8th, 2020
Hi Hurt83. I am so sorry you needed to find us again. This sucks and what an asshole maneuver from him.
OK, you know. Keep it secret if you can, while you get your ducks in a row. Like all of the ducks in a row before you spectaculary play your hand and get out with the best settlement possible.
Others will be along soon. You will get a lot of advice. Keep asking questions until you see YOUR path.
((((Hurt83))))))
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 6:12 AM on Tuesday, September 8th, 2020
I lost my job right around then too— does suck, but you will get through it.
Sorry it came to this, but get your ducks lined up.
(((hurt83)))
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 12:40 PM on Tuesday, September 8th, 2020
Start by saving every dime you can. Once your nest egg starts building you will start Feel empowered.
Work on your plan B. That will make you feel less trapped.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
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