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Seriously was getting ready this past weekend to come on here and update y’all. And I was going to do it in the new beginning section. Sold the house, bought a new house all by myself and moved in October 1. Been trying to decorate with my daughter and make it our own. I got news yesterday from my oldest child that the ex has quit his job. He is currently in a brand new house that he bought with his girlfriend. My understanding is he took a job that is hourly And will be laid off for the winter. Also laid off during inclement weather throughout the rest of the seasons. Any ideas what this means for me as far as child support and spousal support? Those numbers weren’t factored in for me qualifying for the mortgage I have for this house but I sure do rely on that income. He was In a managerial position for almost the past 20 years and salaried and I was a custom to a certain way of life and that’s how the spousal support was determined. The child support I believe is based on both our incomes. I I don’t want to have to move again or change the way I’m doing things for myself for my daughter based on this. Anybody able to chime in as this happened to any of you? Who lets the state know that he Change jobs? I’m sure he won’t but it’s garnished so maybe his employer well? Thanks for being here friend. Sorry it’s been so long since I’ve checked in. I really wanted to be posting a new beginnings I was feeling so good about everything.

((Hugs))

SP

Call your attorney immediately.

His payments being garnished— because he didn’t pay?

He cannot pay less b/c he makes less. That needs to be changed by a court order - is that what you have?

So glad you are up!

I’m freaking out. Wages garnished because apparently that is a Minnesota thing?

I’ll let attorney know today.. yes, both child support and spousal support are court ordered.

Thank you.

((Hugs))

SP

Been down this road multiple times.

He simply cannot stop paying because of this.

He could go to court and petition for a modification, but that may or may not be successful because you might be able to successfully argue that he is willfully underemployed (this seems like it is the case).

Touch base with your attorney--you may need to call the agency in charge of support collection and let them know that he has changed jobs. They should be able to do the rest. If his wages are indeed garnished, then they should apply the garnishment order to the new employer.

Get on top of this now. Do NOT communicate with HIM--just with the agency in charge of support collection and your attorney. Call your attorney first--they should be able to tell you what steps to take.

Cat

I always let the state know when my ex changed jobs. They have super access powers to information that we don't and they will catch up with the garnishment much more quickly.

As far as him trying to modify, all I had to do was point out that he was more than capable of finding a job with comparable wages and they denied his request.

Garnishment is a thing in Oregon, too. It's a much better way imo because they keep track and also because if they stop paying, the next step is much more fun.

In states that don't automatically garnish, that's usually the first step the state takes after months of no child support. We get to skip that step.

Definitely talk to a lawyer, especially because every state is different, but those have been my personal experiences.

Good luck!

Well at least you have a record of his payments and he will continue to pay the same amount unless he petitions the court.

And if he wants to pay less he needs to do it the hard way. Fight to get it court ordered.