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Recentredpill (original poster new member #76055) posted at 8:09 PM on Sunday, December 27th, 2020
So I just found this community. I wish I had found it a long time ago. For some background both my wife and I come from a very conservative background so I have little to no support for this kind of topic as I don’t really know anyone friend or family that has been through a divorce or even had to deal with an A. I am post Dday#3 (multiple affairs over a 13 year period married for 18) and although we have done everything we know to get help (counseling etc) I have come to the conclusion nothing is ever going to change and I have come to the conclusion I will have to remove myself from the situation for my own sanity. What I’m looking for at this point is where do I find sources to find a good lawyer to get good legal advice.
DanielJK ( member #75654) posted at 11:07 PM on Sunday, December 27th, 2020
Do you have a financial advisor or CPA that you use or may know? Financial professionals often deal with divorce but also have clients that may be attorneys.
Other than that, family and friends?
Sometimes employers have employee assistance programs that may be useful. Does your employer offer this?
Start calling around, some will offer a free consultation, others will charge a small fee for a consultation $200-$300. This will give you an opportunity to interview them.
If you are in CT, I have a few names.
Disclaimer: nothing in this post should be construed as legal advice... 
BH 51
STBXWW 53
2 daughters, 14 and 16
Filed for divorce 12/23/2020
After a year of hell I finally moved out (5/26/2021).
Divorce still pending.
Ratpicker ( member #57986) posted at 3:19 AM on Monday, December 28th, 2020
Often clergy hear of good family law attorneys.
Road of life is paved with dead squirrels who couldn't make a decision.
Catwoman ( member #1330) posted at 3:42 PM on Monday, December 28th, 2020
If you are in a fairly large metropolitan area, often there is a publisher that publishes a magazine for that city. They generally publish a "best of" lists for things like doctors and attorneys. This is a good place to start. There are online resources as well.
You want a good family law attorney, not someone who does litigation, bankruptcies, divorces and parking tickets.
I would look for a family law specialist who has been practicing a while and who is also involved with the local or state bar in some way.
Cat
FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 27 and 24. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."
Tigersrule77 ( member #47339) posted at 5:40 PM on Monday, December 28th, 2020
If you don't have friends or relatives to ask, I would definitely recommend you interview your potential attorneys. I made that mistake with my first one and it went poorly, had to hire someone else.
Westway ( member #71747) posted at 8:42 PM on Wednesday, December 30th, 2020
Most attorneys offer free consultations. Go to three and talk to each one about payment options, etc.
There may also be a legal aide office in your area that you could inquire with.
Me: 52;
XWW: 50 y.o. serial cheater
Married 22 years, Together 24
2 Daughters: aged 16 and 20
DDay: 9/20/19
Divorced 12/03/20.
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