Possumlover (original poster member #85336) posted at 2:29 PM on Tuesday, January 13th, 2026
He was completely shocked. He kept asking me what he could different, how he could salvage our life together. All I could say is that you can’t force me to love you, I can’t be your wife. There was a lot said and it was very amicable. He said a few things that were not cool, but I’m sure said out of duress and still trying to come out of being under anesthesia and trying to process. He is very worried about how/where to live, as am I. I think we both don’t want to disrupt our boys life, but thankfully they are adults.
I finally had to just leave the house for awhile. Which then panicked him, then my sons started worrying about me when they got home. All I’ve told the boys is that I’m struggling with his affair still.
We did watch tv together later, we’ll both be off to work soon. He’s already asked if we can go for a walk later. I said maybe. This is the hardest thing ever! I’m guessing he’s thinking if he is extra sweet and caring I’ll change my mind!
I don’t even know what my next steps are going to be.
DD 8/7/22
Together since 1990
Married in 1997
2 amazing sons
