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Hi all. So I’m approximately 10 weeks since DD. My husband has been the perfect man since all this came out. His been open and honest answered all questions. He is receiving IC. We are also in CC every week.

My husband has taken accountability for his actions and poor decision making and appears to be regretful.

He has given me passwords for his phone his location and communicates what his doing ect.

At first this all felt good. However I’m now having second thoughts. I don’t know what I want, some days I just want to walk away as I feel he took the Pi** and lied so hard, almost sent me crazy but I was right about everything all along.

My husband despite him cheating for a year- was always present and done what he needed to do , he didn’t treat me bad while he was having his affair. (Except Lie) when I got a hunch about something.

I’ve also got a small baby (8months) and have been suffering with post partum depression since she has been born. I’m wondering if this is clouding my decision making.

I love my husband but am disappointed and just feel our relationship will never be the same again. Some days I want it will to work and other I’m like my husband is having his cake and eat it- his cheated for a year got her pregnant and I’ve taken him back. I feel like a fool.

I need support and advice please. Xx

A relationship can never be the same after an affair. It will always be different. It can be better in some ways if the WS puts in the work but you will probably forever look at him differently

Did he have a child with this other woman? You made a comment that he got her pregnant

Hi @WB1340

No she didn’t keep the baby, she fell pregnant 8 weeks after I found out and he told her his wife was pregnant too so she made decision to abort.

This woman knew he had a wife all along and didn’t care. They went away together and I only found out as I put a tracker on our car , then caught him leaving her house. She admitted to me she would have never been honest with me if I never came to her house. She told me most things. He wasn’t man enough said he knew it would hurt me to much- which I’ll never understand.

A lot has happened and I feel rather foolish for taking him back. However he makes my life easier and is a brilliant father. Part of me feels like I’m using him as I’m finding things so hard with the postpartum depression. I feel if I was in a better head space I’d tell him to leave.

I just feel so conflicted. I love him some days and others he makes me feel sick.