Positivethoughts (original poster new member #87707) posted at 6:01 PM on Saturday, August 22nd, 2026
Hi. I have literally never posted in any forum before. But I really feel like I need to chat to people who have experienced similar to me. Basically I found out my husband had an affair in October 2025, we are altering to reconcile and I want to, but I am really struggling with sadness, hurt, mental movies and social media obsessions. I feel like I still think about it 99% of the time. First thing of a morning, last thing at night. And I suppose I want to know if this is normal, or should I be getting better by now? I don’t want to feel like this forever, but don’t know how to stop 🥺
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 7:23 PM on Saturday, August 22nd, 2026
Except for the SM obsession, sounds like me 10 months out, 15 years ago.
What have you been doing to heal? What has your WS been doing doing? What have you been doing to rebuild your M?
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
d-day - 12/22/2010 Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
