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Spelljean ( member #35624) posted at 8:56 PM on Tuesday, September 18th, 2012
WH: 41
me: BS, 45
Together 18 1/2 years, married 17
DDAY 8/2/12
OW: EA- friend of 4 months
Status: separated
OathswornDad ( member #36742) posted at 9:44 PM on Tuesday, September 18th, 2012
Thank you. I needed to read this. It will hurt so bad not having a partner. But I have to be comfortable with myself if I am going to have any chance at R
[This message edited by OathswornDad at 3:45 PM, September 18th (Tuesday)]
Wayward now:28
WW:32
2 kids: 4 yo and 2 yo
D-day: 9/1/12
Status: divorced
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 9:35 PM on Saturday, September 29th, 2012
bump 
kannan ( member #36057) posted at 4:59 PM on Sunday, September 30th, 2012
BS ONLY
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Hannelore ( member #34546) posted at 6:06 AM on Monday, October 1st, 2012
I just finished reading this whole thread, and I'm literally smiling! I'm codependent and know it! I've made some big scary changes in the last 6 months - I won't say I'm codependent no more but well on my way! Full disclosure is coming up soon, maybe it wont be as horrifying as I imagine ... Do I feel a glimmer of hope for a brighter future? 
Hannelore ( member #34546) posted at 6:11 AM on Monday, October 1st, 2012
Oh - and thank God for this site and all you good people. I take what I need and just leave the rest. Feeling so hopeful is so weird after all these months of darkness and despair. Wow. 
deeplyblue ( new member #36897) posted at 8:48 AM on Friday, October 5th, 2012
BS(me):37
WSH: 34
OW: 23
married for 2 1/2 yrs
together for 4 yrs
children : 2
DD 27/7/2012
Status: He wants R, I want S/D.
Diva0702 ( member #32309) posted at 10:14 AM on Friday, October 5th, 2012
Me: BW 53
Him: FWH 47
4 wonderful grown children
2 beautiful grandchildren
Married 20 years
Together 23 years
Dday March 10 2010. 4 yr A.
Me: RGN(ret), N.Dip.,BA(Psych),MA (Psych),BA Music.
OW: 55 year old taxi driver
scangel3 ( member #36164) posted at 1:31 AM on Saturday, October 6th, 2012
Thank you for this, unfortunately me and my wh are at the part where you say:
This can often deteriorate into the sort of marriage where the two partners can neither live together nor live apart
scary place to be!!!
BS-me 31, WH-31, M'd-10 years
DD 10, DS 7, DS 6.5
Dday 03/01/10 (our DD's bday)
A ended 08/31/10-09/02-10 (with multiple ddays in between).TT on 08/2012, 09/04/12, 11/16/2012, 01/2013, 6/25/2013 Says he wants R, but not proving it
Carrie22 ( member #32788) posted at 5:29 PM on Saturday, October 6th, 2012
I needed to read this in the wake of a current Dday 2, and wish I had found it in the aftermath of DDay1. Thank you
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 9:10 PM on Saturday, October 13th, 2012
weekend bump.
diditagn ( member #3433) posted at 4:36 AM on Thursday, October 18th, 2012
Happy people don't have the best things, they make the best with what they have.
lordhasaplan? (original poster member #30079) posted at 4:08 PM on Monday, October 22nd, 2012
BS- Me (53)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R. Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
lordhasaplan? (original poster member #30079) posted at 9:12 PM on Monday, November 26th, 2012
bump
BS- Me (53)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R. Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
lordhasaplan? (original poster member #30079) posted at 2:38 PM on Tuesday, November 27th, 2012
BS- Me (53)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R. Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
lordhasaplan? (original poster member #30079) posted at 4:32 PM on Monday, December 10th, 2012
BS- Me (53)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R. Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
Elaine2012 ( member #36099) posted at 6:57 PM on Monday, December 10th, 2012
Me- 60 ish
WH-no longer relevant
Divorced - May 22, 2014
Dday - Blindsided July 2012
Married 35 years
4 adult DD's, 3 SIL, 6 grandchildren
lordhasaplan? (original poster member #30079) posted at 4:33 PM on Monday, December 24th, 2012
BS- Me (53)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R. Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
lordhasaplan? (original poster member #30079) posted at 4:26 PM on Thursday, January 3rd, 2013
BS- Me (53)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R. Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
thisissogross ( member #30294) posted at 6:02 AM on Friday, January 18th, 2013
i edit frequently because i have to
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