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Thiscantbhapning ( new member #39601) posted at 1:51 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014

Yes.

BS (Me)-48
WH-49
COW-28
PA-5 1/2 months
D-Day 5-8-11 (Happy Mother's Day to me)
Married 26 years
DS-24
DD-22
Trying to R
"Maybe this thing was a masterpiece till you tore it all up."

posts: 21   ·   registered: Jun. 19th, 2013   ·   location: Texas
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Allornothing ( member #42354) posted at 1:54 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014

Yes. I couldn't figure out why until I found this site!

Me- BS 44
Him- FWH 44
Married 20 years, Together 27
Kids- 24,23,16,15
D Day- 7 Sept 2013
OW- Irrelevant

posts: 334   ·   registered: Feb. 5th, 2014   ·   location: Australia
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Jls0320 ( member #41192) posted at 2:44 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014

Yes, had no clue there was a name for it, thought I was being weird :/

Me: BS 2 young kiddos
Him: EXWH, SA/NPD, Craigslist, porn, cam sites. EA/PA with disgusting co-worker troll
Too many DDays 9/13-1/15, too many chances to be a good man
Together 16 yrs, married 7yrs,
Divorced 2/11/15
I deserve to be the ONLY one

posts: 1960   ·   registered: Nov. 2nd, 2013
id 6683322
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CantLoseHope ( member #42356) posted at 2:47 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014

Yes, shortly after DDay



"A tree falls the way it leans.....be careful which way you lean"

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Stillheart ( new member #27322) posted at 3:25 PM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014

Yes, about 4 weeks from d-day and lasted for about 6 months.

Me:63 BH
Her:54 WW
Married: 27yrs
8 month affair
D-Day 11-10-08
Two Daughter: 18 & 22
In R and doing well

posts: 27   ·   registered: Jan. 22nd, 2010   ·   location: Oregon
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brokeninside23 ( new member #42447) posted at 4:00 PM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014

My wife confessed a few months back. We have been together for 10 years and married 5. We have had HB non stop. Not complaining but it is way more sex than we have ever had. Thus I get concerned about wether it is real or not. For me I worry this is just a clingy response by both of us which just prevents us from exeriencing what real life will be. I also can't get the thoughts of her with the other guy out if my head (even during).

I enjoy the sex but worry it is a cover for what is truly inevitable

posts: 28   ·   registered: Feb. 13th, 2014
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hopefulmother ( member #38790) posted at 4:20 PM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014

Yes

Me-BW 44
WH-44 zugzwang
D-day 9-4-12
Major TT 8-14
Friends since 1993
Married 2004 with 2 children
My wedding band is a symbol of hope, forgiveness, love, and grace.

posts: 1991   ·   registered: Mar. 22nd, 2013   ·   location: PA
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BlackIce ( new member #42229) posted at 5:34 PM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014

yes, still in it actually. though we had a very active sex life before it's gotten even more frequent and better.

BS: 37
WS: 39
Kids: 3
Together: 19 years
OEA with at least 2 women in other states, now not speaking to one but the other one is lingering past her expiration date
D-Day 12-24-13
talking, working on relationship

posts: 33   ·   registered: Jan. 27th, 2014   ·   location: Oklahoma
id 6684043
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64fleet ( member #18710) posted at 5:50 PM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014

we fucked a bunch right after dday, but never bonded any-it was the equivalent of dogs pissing on fire hydrants/fence posts, marking territory.

time wounds all heels

posts: 5546   ·   registered: Mar. 19th, 2008   ·   location: deliverance land
id 6684070
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lonelylost ( member #36784) posted at 9:45 PM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014

Yes. Lasted a few weeks but ultimately ended in divorce anyway when he didn't want to work on the marriage.

Divorced Jan 2013

"Don't look back, the road is long."
- Needtobreathe

posts: 210   ·   registered: Sep. 10th, 2012   ·   location: IL
id 6684440
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sage2004 ( member #27597) posted at 10:00 PM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014

Yes

BS ME (38)
WH (48)
09/05/2014 DIVORCED!!!!

WH had 2 affairs in first year of marriage

posts: 306   ·   registered: Feb. 16th, 2010   ·   location: Georgia
id 6684466
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painfulpast ( member #41038) posted at 10:05 PM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014

Yes - oh yes

DDay - 12/2010
Fully R'd - I love my husband

posts: 2249   ·   registered: Oct. 19th, 2013   ·   location: East Coast
id 6684478
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coda87 ( member #40669) posted at 12:55 AM on Friday, February 14th, 2014

I wanted to have physical contact with my WW right after DDay. But she really distanced herself, not even casual kisses or hugs. She started taking showers in the other bathroom, sleep in my daughters room. Totally cold.

Now if I think of having sex with her, it disgusts me. She is on the pill too, so I assume no use of condoms.

Married 12yrs, known 14
DDay 8/21/13
BH 44
WW/STBXW 41
3 kids 12,10,8

posts: 127   ·   registered: Sep. 14th, 2013   ·   location: Honolulu
id 6684717
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Aceofbase ( member #42458) posted at 2:33 AM on Friday, February 14th, 2014

Yes

DD: 12/18/2013
Status: R

Happiness is a choice.

posts: 149   ·   registered: Feb. 14th, 2014   ·   location: USA
id 6684839
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toomanyregrets ( member #37740) posted at 8:54 PM on Friday, February 14th, 2014

I did.

I guess it was a way for me to reclaim lost territory so to speak.

BH - 66 - Retired
fWW - 62

"Affairs are not mistakes, they are a series of deliberate choices." - CrappyLife
"Regret is when you realize you broke your own heart.
Remorse is when you realize you broke someone else's." - Bla

posts: 745   ·   registered: Dec. 7th, 2012   ·   location: Upstate NY
id 6686170
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Buckeye Wife ( member #28702) posted at 1:31 AM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014

Yes and I've never had huge sex drive. We did 100 days in a row. Now I look back kinda disgusted with myself. Guess it's normal though.

BS (Me): Forties
FWS(Him): Forties
Married over twenty years
DDay: 1/20/10
R'ing

posts: 1050   ·   registered: Jun. 4th, 2010
id 6686494
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JustMe000 ( new member #42364) posted at 3:26 AM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014

Yes!!

posts: 3   ·   registered: Feb. 5th, 2014   ·   location: East coast
id 6686619
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fireguy87 ( member #36992) posted at 3:33 AM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014

No!!

Me - FBH
Happened many years ago
Reconciled

posts: 51   ·   registered: Sep. 30th, 2012
id 6686626
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Shonsal ( new member #42427) posted at 1:25 PM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014

Yes! I didn't even know about this until right now, I thought I was weird! I tried to initiate the night I found out but it was actually him who pushed me away. He just couldn't. And then I pushed him away the next day. Since then our sexual intamacy has been great.

I really did think I was strange and had a fetish

A: July 2012
WS: Him
OW: his best friend

posts: 18   ·   registered: Feb. 11th, 2014   ·   location: Australia
id 6686884
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LetMeRollIt ( member #41189) posted at 4:00 PM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014

Yes.

Starting 3 months after DDay, 1 month into R. Lasted a month.

And for those who say it lasted a year, or something, holy poop!

We were at it constantly. 3-6 times every 24 hours.

Now, settled into a more sustainable pattern. Still good. And I imagine it will be even better when I can get through it without a few triggers. And better still when i can look at her and not feel pain.

D day- June 30, 2013
Me - BS
Married 15 years
5 year old child
Attempting R as of Oct. 1 2013

"Cry, and let your soul be cleansed of a love that turned to carnage." - Christy Brown

posts: 99   ·   registered: Nov. 1st, 2013   ·   location: Canada
id 6687019
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