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Thiscantbhapning ( new member #39601) posted at 1:51 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
BS (Me)-48
WH-49
COW-28
PA-5 1/2 months
D-Day 5-8-11 (Happy Mother's Day to me)
Married 26 years
DS-24
DD-22
Trying to R
"Maybe this thing was a masterpiece till you tore it all up."
Allornothing ( member #42354) posted at 1:54 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
Yes. I couldn't figure out why until I found this site!
Me- BS 44
Him- FWH 44
Married 20 years, Together 27
Kids- 24,23,16,15
D Day- 7 Sept 2013
OW- Irrelevant
Jls0320 ( member #41192) posted at 2:44 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
Yes, had no clue there was a name for it, thought I was being weird :/
Me: BS 2 young kiddos
Him: EXWH, SA/NPD, Craigslist, porn, cam sites. EA/PA with disgusting co-worker troll
Too many DDays 9/13-1/15, too many chances to be a good man
Together 16 yrs, married 7yrs,
Divorced 2/11/15
I deserve to be the ONLY one
CantLoseHope ( member #42356) posted at 2:47 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
"A tree falls the way it leans.....be careful which way you lean"
Stillheart ( new member #27322) posted at 3:25 PM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
Yes, about 4 weeks from d-day and lasted for about 6 months.
Me:63 BH
Her:54 WW
Married: 27yrs
8 month affair
D-Day 11-10-08
Two Daughter: 18 & 22
In R and doing well
brokeninside23 ( new member #42447) posted at 4:00 PM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
My wife confessed a few months back. We have been together for 10 years and married 5. We have had HB non stop. Not complaining but it is way more sex than we have ever had. Thus I get concerned about wether it is real or not. For me I worry this is just a clingy response by both of us which just prevents us from exeriencing what real life will be. I also can't get the thoughts of her with the other guy out if my head (even during).
I enjoy the sex but worry it is a cover for what is truly inevitable
hopefulmother ( member #38790) posted at 4:20 PM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
Me-BW 44
WH-44 zugzwang
D-day 9-4-12
Major TT 8-14
Friends since 1993
Married 2004 with 2 children
My wedding band is a symbol of hope, forgiveness, love, and grace.
BlackIce ( new member #42229) posted at 5:34 PM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
yes, still in it actually. though we had a very active sex life before it's gotten even more frequent and better.
BS: 37
WS: 39
Kids: 3
Together: 19 years
OEA with at least 2 women in other states, now not speaking to one but the other one is lingering past her expiration date
D-Day 12-24-13
talking, working on relationship
64fleet ( member #18710) posted at 5:50 PM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
we fucked a bunch right after dday, but never bonded any-it was the equivalent of dogs pissing on fire hydrants/fence posts, marking territory.
lonelylost ( member #36784) posted at 9:45 PM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
Yes. Lasted a few weeks but ultimately ended in divorce anyway when he didn't want to work on the marriage.
Divorced Jan 2013
"Don't look back, the road is long."
- Needtobreathe
sage2004 ( member #27597) posted at 10:00 PM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
BS ME (38)
WH (48)
09/05/2014 DIVORCED!!!!
WH had 2 affairs in first year of marriage
painfulpast ( member #41038) posted at 10:05 PM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
Yes - oh yes 
DDay - 12/2010
Fully R'd - I love my husband
coda87 ( member #40669) posted at 12:55 AM on Friday, February 14th, 2014
I wanted to have physical contact with my WW right after DDay. But she really distanced herself, not even casual kisses or hugs. She started taking showers in the other bathroom, sleep in my daughters room. Totally cold.
Now if I think of having sex with her, it disgusts me. She is on the pill too, so I assume no use of condoms.
Married 12yrs, known 14
DDay 8/21/13
BH 44
WW/STBXW 41
3 kids 12,10,8
Aceofbase ( member #42458) posted at 2:33 AM on Friday, February 14th, 2014
DD: 12/18/2013
Status: R
Happiness is a choice.
toomanyregrets ( member #37740) posted at 8:54 PM on Friday, February 14th, 2014
I did.
I guess it was a way for me to reclaim lost territory so to speak.
BH - 66 - Retired
fWW - 62
"Affairs are not mistakes, they are a series of deliberate choices." - CrappyLife
"Regret is when you realize you broke your own heart.
Remorse is when you realize you broke someone else's." - Bla
Buckeye Wife ( member #28702) posted at 1:31 AM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014
Yes and I've never had huge sex drive. We did 100 days in a row. Now I look back kinda disgusted with myself. Guess it's normal though.
BS (Me): Forties
FWS(Him): Forties
Married over twenty years
DDay: 1/20/10
R'ing
JustMe000 ( new member #42364) posted at 3:26 AM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014
fireguy87 ( member #36992) posted at 3:33 AM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014
No!! 
Me - FBH
Happened many years ago
Reconciled
Shonsal ( new member #42427) posted at 1:25 PM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014
Yes! I didn't even know about this until right now, I thought I was weird! I tried to initiate the night I found out but it was actually him who pushed me away. He just couldn't. And then I pushed him away the next day. Since then our sexual intamacy has been great.
I really did think I was strange and had a fetish
A: July 2012
WS: Him
OW: his best friend
LetMeRollIt ( member #41189) posted at 4:00 PM on Saturday, February 15th, 2014
Yes.
Starting 3 months after DDay, 1 month into R. Lasted a month.
And for those who say it lasted a year, or something, holy poop!
We were at it constantly. 3-6 times every 24 hours.
Now, settled into a more sustainable pattern. Still good. And I imagine it will be even better when I can get through it without a few triggers. And better still when i can look at her and not feel pain.
D day- June 30, 2013
Me - BS
Married 15 years
5 year old child
Attempting R as of Oct. 1 2013
"Cry, and let your soul be cleansed of a love that turned to carnage." - Christy Brown
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