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gettingthere2013 ( member #38232) posted at 7:03 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
Not after either Dday. Our sex life had always been active and adventurous. Took one day after DD#1 before we had sex,two days after DD#2,then we were back to our 5-6 times a week. How long was it before we were making love and mind movies didn't interfere? Several months. I truly believe it was our intimate connection that has gotten us this far in R.
Me:BW(44)
Him:WH(42)
Kids: Seven...yes,you read that right,and yes-we do know what causes them :)
Dday#1 1/29/2013(ONS with coworker)
Dday#2 4/8/2013(6 month LD PA with coworker,over for six months at time of discovery)
Separated,on road to D
cmego ( member #30346) posted at 7:07 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
Yes. And my ex was having gay affairs, our LL came back with a vengeance until the 2nd DDay 6 months later. I walked out and never looked back.
People are always surprised when I tell them I really didn't know he was gay. But, he was sexually/emotionally attracted to me.
me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced
mezmer ( member #42406) posted at 7:42 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
YES. I am still way deep in it. It is really good, though. Mind blowing. I could do him for week. My sex drive always was a lot more than his, though.
Me: BW, 47
Him: WH, 48
Married: 21 yrs.
cvs2kkids ( member #41298) posted at 8:58 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
No.
But we were separated before she knew I knew.
Have since R'd, but no HB.
Philippians 4:6-7
6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your min
Decimated ( member #31656) posted at 9:29 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
No, all physical intimacy stopped when I found out the truth and never really came back to normal.
Me -BH 47, now 56
Her-XWW 39, now, who cares
D Day #1 9/09 found out about texting
D day #2 1/11 found out EA on going
D day #3 4/11 found out EA was a PA
Divorced 1/13
doggiediva ( member #33806) posted at 10:56 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
Sex should never buy one's way back into a marriage..IMHO there are other needs that need to be met first..
Don't tie your happiness to the tail of somebody else's kite
63 years young..
StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 11:00 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
Nope, was disgusted that he climbed on top of and fornicated with a goat looking troll. He was going to have to EARN that platinum va jay jay back. Didn't happen, he fell off the wagon and gobbled up her ego kibbles.
Blehhhhh! 
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
Smokehouse ( member #40203) posted at 11:10 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
Yes, lasted approximately one month, then DDay 2 hit. After that shock, about another 8 weeks. Now, it is still pretty strong but has tapered off. Still pretty sweet though!!!
hobbeskat ( member #38805) posted at 11:12 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
Yes, for about a month. I triggered the first time and asked questions. It's pretty much back to normal now I feel i can be physically affectionate again. We've always had a pretty great sex life, though. But the sex around the time of the A, it was clear he was angry at me for something.
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steadfast1973 ( member #24719) posted at 11:18 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
Yes. Still in dday2 HB. After dday1, it lasted about 6 months. It helped build back the intimacy he had used porn to squander away.
Me- 42- BS Him- 38- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 multi EAs, likely PA, trickle truth, d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute Separated 1/2017
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah"
LAFA ( member #31868) posted at 11:24 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
No, didn't have the HB here. The impact of the EA on me was such that it took quite a while to recover interest.
When you put someone on a pedestal, they quickly learn two things. The view is mighty good from up there, and it is a fine vantage from which to kick.
Justgreatnews ( member #41666) posted at 11:30 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
Yes. Just about 1 week, though.
roses303 ( member #40161) posted at 11:30 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
Me: BW - 46
Him: WH - 49
MOW: my BFF from college and good friend for 25 yrs
Married 14 years, 2 Tweens
DD: 5/20/13 2 year long EA/PAs (one 7 yrs ago and one this past year)
Status: day by day, in MC, working on R
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 11:32 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
No. Hysteria of complete detachment? Yes - my hysteria at his detachment.
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
self-rescuer ( member #35059) posted at 11:44 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
How are you tending to the the emerging story of your life?
~ Carol Hegedus
tonic0405 ( new member #41861) posted at 11:48 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
Yes. Very intense and very hysterical.
BS-me 44
WS-him 60
DDay 9/10/2013
Currently Divorced - living in separate homes with the intention of finding our way back.
kellys2014 ( new member #42306) posted at 11:57 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
A little more than a week after DD I slept with him (last night). The truth is I did it for myself. I wanted to be comforted and I made it all about me. I plan to do the same thing tonight and any other time I feel like it, until I don't feel like it.
Doesn't mean we are R. It's just what I want and that's what I'm focused on right now!
It somewhat feels like bonding. But it also feels frustrating because I really want to want him, but I don't necessarily actually want him. Hard to explain. Like I want IT, but not him.
Me: 36
WH: 44
DS: 7
DD: 5
His AP: 24, former family friend and babysitter
Married 11 1/2 yrs
D-Day: 2/1/2014 3 month PA, 24 months sexting
Mhiimg65 ( member #41951) posted at 1:11 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
To my surprise, yes. But it' s only been 5 weeks. However, I did realize I wasn't the (un)sexual woman he thought I was. Had I had some emotional bonding and good communication he wouldn't have had to find some bitch in heat. I hope it keeps up. I feel robbed 
" He paved paradise and put up a parking lot"
BS - me
WS- him
married 26 years, together since kids
D- Day Jan 4 2014
PMA- starting this moment
R - in MC. WH is in IC
brokensoul75 ( new member #41473) posted at 4:02 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Yes, the night I found out. Very primal. The second night, I couldn't follow through and burst into tears. I don't know how long HB lasted, I think we've eased into "normal" now, the mind movies have stopped, lots of things have changed.
You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you. ~Walt Disney
We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey. ~Kenji Miyazawa
Girlietoo ( member #38719) posted at 4:05 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Absolutely- on Dday of all days. It's still there, not as strong, but definately still going on, for me.
Me- 40
Him- 47
March 9, 2013- the day my heart died
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