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hopefulkate ( member #47752) posted at 1:22 AM on Monday, August 28th, 2017
I want to agree to that - definitely a different poster than when you first got here! I get the fragile mindset thing...that was my husband's reasoning not to tell me (aside from out right fear 
), and it definitely had a HUGE negative impact on my son who he was trying to protect.
However, being able to share with him and help him emotionally after the fact, has actually been one of the positive outcomes of all of this.
Not that I suggest or demand you confess - I understand the road of suicidal loved ones all too well.
Take care.
NewDayforDad ( member #58901) posted at 2:33 AM on Thursday, August 31st, 2017
I often think of R with my exWW. She seriously is too far gone to even have a rational discussion about anything, even the children we share custody of. So the idea just hangs in the back of my thoughts.
I can consider R because I married her. I took it seriously and it's very faith based for me. I believe adultery is one of the worse things our vows were attemptimg to cover.
I have read many members on here say they couldn't JUST stop loving their WS after dday. I know how that feels and what it means. I don't like WW very much atm but I do love her in the way it will always count. Love for me in a marriage is a commitment. I was committed.
Losing touch with the fact we are committed is what makes us like children or animals. Grown adults attempting to rationalize their way out of a commitment is why it may be difficult to grasp why a BS might want to R.
I think those of us who get the privelage of making it to being that little old lady or old man will laugh at all the stupid silly stuff we put ourselves through under the lense of emotions and self interest.
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