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Have you contacted any lawyers to set up an initial appointment yet?

That I have. Luckily it's pretty easy and cut and dry where I live.

Good for you!

Continue moving forward!

I promise that things are much, much better once the process starts moving forward.

Where are you that things are like that? I’m jealous. Lol

The problem you have is if they work together it’s easy to have contact and keep it hidden.

R would require specific actions on her part which you don’t have.

The capability is there for her to repeat her behavior if it’s even stopped. She does nothing to fix herself then nothing changes.

Where are you that things are like that? I’m jealous. Lol

Let's just say it's a state where marriage is cheap and money is easily lost.

The problem you have is if they work together it’s easy to have contact and keep it hidden.

R would require specific actions on her part which you don’t have.

The capability is there for her to repeat her behavior if it’s even stopped. She does nothing to fix herself then nothing changes.

I 100% agree with you. I also know if she changes her job that nothing could change and there could just be another guy.

Let's just say it's a state where marriage is cheap and money is easily lost.

Nevada ?

Hmmmmm

Just a guess.....

Ahhhh..... Nevada??????

I can’t confirm or deny that...

Well, just answer this, was there a Liberace museum in your state at one point?

Well, just answer this, was there a Liberace museum in your state at one point?

...yes

Asked and answered..

How are you doing?

Doing well, still trying not to revert. Those feelings come back every now and again, but I know what needs to be done. Everyday I'm losing her a little more and more in my mind emotionally. I guess that's a good thing.

Still waiting for her to sign the papers so I can file. She's hesitating for some reason. I'll find out later tonight where she is with it.

She's hesitating for some reason. I'll find out later tonight where she is with it.

From the outside, it's pretty obvious why she's hesitating. She's beginning to realize what she'd done and that there are now real consequences because of it. Your NC has shaken her pretty hard. After all you were doing a great "pick-me" dance and she was getting everything she wanted. Side cock and you giving her whatever she wanted...now suddenly...it's real. DIFFERENT...and she hasn't figured out what to do. Expect lots of tears...and "remorse" (it's really regret, because remorse is hard to do...). Stay the course. IF she actually starts showing you all those things she needs to do, you can always stop the D, but at this point, I don't think you should. It's gone way to far.

She's hesitating for some reason. I'll find out later tonight where she is with it.

She likes cake. You’d be wise not to feed her more.

Only married 2 years ?

Repeats happen. I wouldn’t hang around for round 2.

Good morning. Did you get her to sign the paperwork last night ?

One day at a time brother.

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I sincerely hope you divorce this woman. She is not a good person.

You are much better off without her.

Good morning all, I demanded she sign the papers yesterday and we did. We're on our way.

She's beginning to realize what she'd done and that there are now real consequences because of it. Your NC has shaken her pretty hard. After all you were doing a great "pick-me" dance and she was getting everything she wanted. Side cock and you giving her whatever she wanted...now suddenly...it's real. DIFFERENT...and she hasn't figured out what to do. Expect lots of tears...and "remorse" (it's really regret, because remorse is hard to do...). Stay the course. IF she actually starts showing you all those things she needs to do, you can always stop the D, but at this point, I don't think you should. It's gone way to far.

Precisely, I think this is what is happening as well. She had asked me the other night if I'd take her back if she chose to work on the marriage. I said no as she has shown no signs of wanting to work on the marriage. I asked her if the affair was still going on. She admitted that it was. At that point I said for sure no and demanded the papers to be signed.

Your (state), is no fault and community property. Not too bad if you both are relatively equal wage earners. However, if she is living with the affair guy, that might be considered her being supported by him by your (state)'s divorce laws. Sadly adultery doesn't really impact the process in your (state), but if she spent a lot of money on her side piece, that might be something you could cite.

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