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You Cannot Be Friends With Your Former Affair Partner

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Mrs Panda ( member #27303) posted at 2:01 AM on Saturday, January 14th, 2012

Bump for timid1

Me-48 FWW Him 51BH
M 20 years,. Fully Reconciled ❤️.
DDay#1 Nov 2008
DDay#2 Aug 2009 (Prior A from 2001)
"Those who believe in telekinetics, raise my hand." -Kurt Vonnegut

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BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 2:01 PM on Monday, January 16th, 2012

Bump for Universe.

WH - 49
BW - gerrygirl

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stilllovinghim ( member #29971) posted at 10:56 AM on Wednesday, January 18th, 2012

Bumpin it like Snookie...

“You have a choice. Live or die.Every breath is a choice. Every minute is a choice. Every time you don't throw yourself down the stairs, that's a choice. Every time you don't crash your car, you re-enlist.”
― Chuck Palahniuk, Survivor

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BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 12:02 AM on Thursday, January 26th, 2012

Bump.

WH - 49
BW - gerrygirl

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Brwneyes ( member #34147) posted at 7:18 AM on Thursday, January 26th, 2012

Im BS. Thanks for posting this. My WH tried to be friends with the OW and finding that out hurt me terribly. She asked him to help her move and she went and she got pulled over by a cop right at the end of out block and he actually walked down and tried to talk the cop into letting him drive her car and park it in our drive way to avoid having it towed. And when I asked him to leave our home he told me he was staying with a "friend" he stayed at her house but swears me up and down that nothing happened while he was there (I was unaware that they had slept together during all this. He lied and told me he thought he had feelings for her, said he was wrong and told me all they had done was kiss) He swears he doesn't know what in the hell he was thinking.

Me- BS 34
Him WS 33

Together 15 years Married 12 1 child 3

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BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 2:22 PM on Sunday, February 5th, 2012

Another one...

WH - 49
BW - gerrygirl

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so-wrong ( member #33653) posted at 4:51 PM on Monday, February 6th, 2012

Hello all - From a very remorseful FWW - i can't imagine WANTING to have any friendly contact with former AP, much less wanting to stay friends with them.

The thought of seeing them or much less having a conversation with them is REVOLTING. Well - I do have to admit that sometimes i think I would love to SCREAM and CURSE them out and tell them how disgusted i am by them but even that would be wasting too much energy on them.

In my honest opinion, all AP needs to be GONE from your lives forever.

And this is true whether you reconcile or not. If my BH decides to divorce me, I still will never want to speak or see any of the AP ever again.

[This message edited by so-wrong at 11:01 AM, February 6th (Monday)]

- I made some really bad choices and now I need to make it right. And along the way, I will make me better too.....

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stilllovinghim ( member #29971) posted at 7:29 PM on Saturday, February 18th, 2012

Bump for coconut & hatingit

[This message edited by stilllovinghim at 1:31 PM, February 18th (Saturday)]

“You have a choice. Live or die.Every breath is a choice. Every minute is a choice. Every time you don't throw yourself down the stairs, that's a choice. Every time you don't crash your car, you re-enlist.”
― Chuck Palahniuk, Survivor

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longroadhome ( member #32428) posted at 7:42 PM on Saturday, February 18th, 2012

Nice to see this back up here at the top of the list.

Just got a fishing email from the ow on Valentine's day (see my other post about that) and she mentioned our "friendship." I just coudn't believe it. It has to be the most ridiculous thing I've ever seen in writing. There is no way I would want to be in the same state as the ow, never mind have any kind of interaction. Her even thinking it was possible just kind of made her look like an idiot.

Me: WH
Her: BW, and the most amazing, beautiful person I've ever known

It is counterintuitive really... the less we defend our well-being, the more well we feel. ~ Nancy Colier

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Clarrissa ( member #21886) posted at 10:27 PM on Saturday, February 18th, 2012

Wow, two years ago today this thread was started... It needs to be stickied so it isn't lost...

Anyway, a bit of an update on me. Still NC with the OM. Even though I see him every day while I wait for my bus to work.

Still don't want to be friends with him either.

BH Cee64D - 50
FWW (me) - 51


All affairs are variations on a theme. No one has 'Beethoven's 5th' to everyone else's 'Chopsticks'.

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BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 3:12 AM on Tuesday, March 13th, 2012

bump

WH - 49
BW - gerrygirl

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