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sassylee ( member #45766) posted at 9:12 PM on Monday, April 2nd, 2018
My R(eformed)WH had a 5 month EA in 2012
In my 7th year of R
“LOVE is a commitment, not an emotion. It is a conscious act of a covenant of unconditional love. It is a mindset and a thought process.” - BigHeart2018’s Professor
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:16 PM on Wednesday, April 18th, 2018
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
sassylee ( member #45766) posted at 4:03 PM on Friday, April 20th, 2018
My R(eformed)WH had a 5 month EA in 2012
In my 7th year of R
“LOVE is a commitment, not an emotion. It is a conscious act of a covenant of unconditional love. It is a mindset and a thought process.” - BigHeart2018’s Professor
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 6:31 PM on Sunday, May 13th, 2018
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 7:43 PM on Saturday, May 26th, 2018
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 6:56 PM on Friday, June 15th, 2018
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 11:43 PM on Thursday, June 28th, 2018
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 7:40 PM on Wednesday, July 4th, 2018
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 5:39 PM on Saturday, July 14th, 2018
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 1:16 AM on Saturday, August 25th, 2018
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 6:08 PM on Thursday, September 13th, 2018
bump 
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:02 PM on Monday, September 24th, 2018
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 7:56 PM on Sunday, November 4th, 2018
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 11:17 PM on Monday, December 10th, 2018
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 9:14 PM on Friday, December 21st, 2018
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
ru79 ( member #69172) posted at 9:21 PM on Friday, December 21st, 2018
""but it’s not until you have your entire world burned to the ground and you stand alone with nobody to catch you that you realize you are not only solely responsible for your own self-worth and happiness, but that you have the power to control both of these things""
How true!!!!! Thank you for sharing
me: BS-39
Him: WH -40
DD1- 5/2018 (multiple ONS, AP1- 9 Months EA/PA, AP2- 1 yr+ ongoing long distance A, EA/ PA)
DD2-11/2018 (Continued A with AP2 while on R)
separate: 11/2018
No kids
Istayed ( member #68885) posted at 9:47 PM on Friday, December 21st, 2018
Wonderful, wise words. I’m still in the thick of it and this reassurance helps.
Me: BS 55
Him: WH 55
D-day: 11/09/18 + abandonment
Married 35 years no kids.
In process of divorce.
“Wickedness never was happiness.”
Brokenforlife ( new member #69117) posted at 3:54 PM on Saturday, December 22nd, 2018
Thank you!!!! I know whatever decision I make, I will be ok! I found a strength that I thought disappeared so long ago. I am finding myself again and loving her the way I always should have.❤️
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 5:34 PM on Saturday, January 5th, 2019
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Edie ( member #26133) posted at 8:29 AM on Sunday, February 3rd, 2019
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