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This is very disturbing I am sure.

I believe it was probably the woman because of the strange act of spraying the perfume.

I would definitely demand that the police compare the prints if they already have her's on file. Follow up on this point please.

Her behavior is escalating and if it is her you and your baby may be in danger at some point.

And I agree, keep the firearm secure from the baby but loaded. An unloaded firearm is no help in an emergency.

Hopefully the prints will be matched and she can be prosecuted.

[This message edited by UR_AN_IDIOT at 10:44 AM, September 5th (Sunday)]

My step dad is here fixing a bar for the sliders. I havent heard back from the troopers. I guess I will on Tuesday.

They had fingerprints, I hope some were her's or whoever did this.

So tired of the bullshit.

((TC))

i know you must be so worried, scared and tired. i went through something similar years ago. DS's bio dad broke into my place, threatened me a lot, actually cut the brake lines to my truck. craziness.

once we got to court and got a judge involved it stopped pretty quickly. i hope the same for you

(((tc)))

I bet she was looking for evidence that her man is stepping out with you. Checking for his clothes in your drawers, men's toiletries, etc. Maybe the spraying of your perfume was to see if yours is the smell that she's been smelling on her wonderful catch of a man.

I find it hard to believe she didn't take one thing - some sort of souvenir... But I can also hear her defense if caught, "but I didn't TAKE anything!!"

Be safe and be careful.

It just occurred to me you might want to investigate your papers, to see if any were disturbed.

Perhaps the point of the break in was to steal information about your identity, since you are financially stable and your ex doesn't seem to be doing so well with cash flow.

The prospect of another mouth to feed on little money could be helping with the crazy making behaviours.

OMG, how scary...

take a 2x2 and cut it to the width of the slider, use it to jam the door

I was going to recommend this also. I live in an incredibly safe area, my backyard surround by fence with locked gate but since living alone I STILL keep a 2 x 4 in my slider so it can only be cracked open for some air.

I DO hope they catch him/her/IT...

(((TC)))

(Carrie & Teeny)

I'm so sorry you are going through this.

(((TC))) how scary! I hope they catch her/whoever soon.

OMG, what is with her?? I mean it has to be her...didn't she get what she wanted? Why can't she just leave you alone? My ex's gf harrassed me at work, showed up all the time...but it was NEVER like this.

Take care of yourself.

forget the gun, more guns are used on the ones they were meant to protect...

hairspray, bugspray, even a spray made from viniger and some water....sprayed directly to the eyes will buy you the time you need to get out...

Please don't take advice from conventional wisdom, especially when the original source of that conventional wisdom was a political campaign against gun ownership, and is dead wrong.

For a point of reference, just watch all the cops walking around with cans of hairspray, bugspray, or spritzers of vinegar and water.

Seek professional advice. Get training for that gun. Practice with it. The trick to not having it used against you is to have it with you at all times, and being willing to use it to protect teeny and yourself.

Living in the country means, unfortunately, a certain amount of self-reliance, even in the area of self defense.

We have a saying in the self-defense community: When seconds count, the police are only minutes away.

((((Carrie)))))

Ooh ooh! I know what it is like to feel violated. Except the person was still in the room with me. Scary!!

Rods in the runners are fantastic and cheap! Not just the door but the windows as well. Motion lights outside the front door and the backyard. A little more expensive, but worth it.

Glad that nothing was taken and really glad that they were able to pull prints!

I am not an advocate of guns especially with children in the house. This makes me nervous for Teeny.

forget the gun, more guns are used on the ones they were meant to protect...

That is utter crap. I don't want to t/j or get off on a gun ownership thread...but that is completely and utterly false. The reverse is actually true. Guns are most often used to repel attack and home invasion successfully. There is a shitload of statistics and evidence to support it, too.

Oh, and unless teeny can climb into the top of a closet or a shelf 7 feet off the ground, then a loaded weapon is not a concern. It is more probable for teeny to accidentally get burned on a hot stove top than to climb, reach for, grab and then operate a loaded firearm.

There are reasonable and very good precautions for ownership and the safe handling of weapons.

-Defiance

[This message edited by Defiance at 5:11 PM, September 5th (Sunday)]

Sounds like you have a true nut on your hands there. I must copy and paste here: "Seek professional advice. Get training for that gun. Practice with it." Let me also add once you pull it out you MUST be ready to use it. That is not the time to be second guessing if you should have pulled it in the first place. A professional class will teach this and help you with it. Please look into this.

I have been the victim of a break-in and it's a really shitty feeling, I know that.

Anyway, it was undoubtedly OW or a trash-thug friend of hers...just what happened is not the work of even a rookie burglar, it's some assclown playing games, trying to threaten you without witnesses. What a POS this woman is!

Check this out - sounds lame, but it's cheaper than an actual alarm system...good deterrant, even if only temporary. Surprisingly, there are several websites to look at! Here's just one...

http://www.fakealarm.com/

This woman is scary. It's one thing to mouth off at the mall, but she's totally escalating as others have said.

Oh, I don't like this at all. I hope you feel safe and secure soon.

Thank you everyone. I have a concealed weapons permit. I used to be married to an avid hunter with an arsenal of firearms. He knows the guns I have because he bought them for me

I keep it in a lock box, unloaded normally. Now its up high, away from little hands. I grew up in the country so Im used to firearms and self protection. Cops are useless here. Im 40 miles from a station...its rural WV.

Nobody has made a peep. I have new locks on the slider and chain locks on the doors.

Its ridiculous I have to do this crap. Its also scary but I am more focused on taking care of what needs to be done.

TC,

All due respect. You know how this goes. Unloaded does you no good at all. You will not have time or the presence of mind to be able to find ammo, and load your weapon when seconds count.

You have a concealed permit. Use it. Carry a loaded weapon with you at all times.

This person has shown that they are not stable, and are willing to violate your home to make a statement. They have stalked you to your place of employment.

Be prepared, and be ready, and be armed.

-Defiance

OMG. I really bet it was the crazy fucking whore.

Carrie, I've now read all the responses. I am so upset about this!

I wanted to say let's not get into a gun debate, as that could be highly volatile. It is good, however, that Carrie does apparently know what she is doing. She sounds confident and on guard, and I think that is AWESOME. Carrie Oakley, I'm going to call her.

Given that you have something filed already against this woman, and the fact that she made that scene not long ago, they will surely talk to her. Hopefully she will go away.

You could also consider getting an outside dog. Perhaps something more like big dog, a GUARD dog.

I am glad you dog and you and teeny are safe. I am angry for you! I will also add you to my prayer list.

Love you and big hugs.

do

Something little that cost me zero dollars...I keep the spare set of keys to my car on my nightstand to hit the panic button on the keychain if I would hear anything strange. Burglars do not want to be caught. Setting off a car alarm just might scare them away. ANd of course home and cell are always on the nightstand too.

Another thing I do (but might not help in your case) is to leave a 20 dollar bill in plain sight. I figure if the 20 is missing when I get home someone has been there.

I also keep a pair of men's work boots on my front and back porch. Gives the illusion that a man might be home. Sounds silly but it actually sparked my friends to ask who was I hiding in the house.

So sorry this happened to you.