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bballmom43 ( member #29361) posted at 9:43 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
Actually it's YOU that is paying the most. It's YOU that devotes all your time and love to caring for the children, it's YOU that is providing them a loving home to live in, food, clothing, upbringing, care, concern. Who is there to comfort and care for the baby? Who is there to help with the homework, the friend dramas, the sports events? YOU, as a mother, never get a day off. He's been off for over a year!
ME BS
Him WH
Married 23 years
Daughter 19 (College Basketball Superstar!)
Daughter 15 (My beautiful baby)
I live for my kids! He can go fuck himself.
Helen of Troy ( member #26419) posted at 11:56 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
Your WH should call the wahhbulance
bigpicture3236 ( member #27861) posted at 2:33 AM on Wednesday, September 8th, 2010
STBX isn't going to be happy either. We are just getting started out in D, but he wanted to sit down and discuss 'details' right after I busted him. He started off saying something to the effect of 'I think you would agree that you are too dependent on me. I think you should have made a better effort to get a better paying job.'
WTF??? It was OUR decision for me to stay home with the kids when they were little. It was MY idea to do daycare to help out financially. I talked to him after just a few years about me going back to school to get a degree (once the kids were all in school). He told me he would not pay for it; I would have to find the money myself.
So NOW, HE is upset that I am so dependent? No, he is just upset as he is finding out that he is going to have to pay huge for support because I have been literally a SAHM for almost 24 years. Had I gone back to school and gotten a degree, 'real' job, he may not have to pay anything. He has no one to blame by himself; he can be bitter all he wants.
If you love something and hurt it dearly, then chose not to fix it...you never deserved it in the first place.
MYBOYSMOM ( member #26318) posted at 3:32 AM on Wednesday, September 8th, 2010
Oh yeah, XH went very quickly from "we need to do what's best for the boys" and "you're doing a great job with the boys" to I am the source of all of his CONTINUING problems! "Problems" being defined as not having enough money to wine and dine the new wife and grown stepson still mooching off his mother.
Bitter and angry? Yeah that's WH.
BW 49(me)
WH - doesn't matter anymore
Married: 23 years; DS18, DS16
D-Day: 9/1/2009, D:12/21/2009
"It's a new dawn, It's a new day, It's a new life, for me, and I'm feeling good..." Michael Buble
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