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romanticidiot ( member #28655) posted at 12:24 AM on Sunday, February 5th, 2012
rock,
You don't lack "worthiness." You are worth so much more than your POS WH, and you're definitely not in any sort of competition with the skank.
Stop beating yourself up. Let him go. You only have so much room in your heart and in your life. Let him go, and it will open up a spot for someone worthy of you to find their way into your life. You're awesome, and awesomeness repels crappiness. Let it be.
Best of luck to ya', sister. You'll be OK.
"When you're going through Hell, keep going." -Churchill
Rise And Shine ( member #27513) posted at 12:25 AM on Sunday, February 5th, 2012
Sammie said it. Sammie always says it! 
Water seeks its own level
Being with you is very uncomfortable right now because you hold a mirror up in front of his face and he can very clearly see the massive POS reflected back at him.
These are NOT feel good words being expressed and you'll understand that soon.
He's with a woman who expects SO little of him because SO little is all he has to offer.
You are a reminder to him of all that he isn't and that's hard on his self esteem.
But his OW also reminds him of all that he isn't.
Only with her, he can pretend to feel like he has some value...because she expects so little from a man and he can at least live up to THAT!
Just wait, lady. Things are going to change in your head when that little bundle arrives!
rockbottom2468 (original poster member #32496) posted at 2:17 AM on Sunday, February 5th, 2012
Thank you, everyone. I hope to be able to believe all that you gals are saying one day and I truly appreciate your responses. After I posted this last night, DS woke up with a tight terror that ended with him crying about how much he misses his daddy and wants to see him. He asked to call ex, so I let him. He fed DS a bunch of bs, but was nice, however it almost felt like the tone of his voice was bothered by his son, not concerned. We are nothing but three, almost four, people that he views disturb his precious life anymore. We are not family, I am not the love in his life, we are not meaningless, but we are meaningless to him. To the man I used to love, deeply, and the father my children adore, we are nothing. I don't understand it.
Me: BS-29
Him: XH-33
Dday: June 2011
Together: 13 years
Children: DD(8), DS (6), DD2 (8 months)
Status: He left for 20yo OW.
"Even on my weakest days,
I get a little bit stronger"
WhiistleSt0p ( member #29762) posted at 2:24 AM on Sunday, February 5th, 2012
I read it. I know it's true, but in that post, the OW fails...in my case, she "won." Not much of a prize, but she took my husband and the father of my children away from me and her self-esteem and happiness seem to be doing just fine.
Honey, really, she took nothing. He willingly left. Now, I know that hurts, but she couldn't 'take' him unless he willingly left. No need to let him off easy.
And it isn't winning or losing no matter how easy that makes it look. He made horrible choices, and she just happened to be there. It could have been anyone else, really. She does not have that much worth.
(((HUGS))) I'm sorry, but you really are better off without him. You probably can't see or feel that right now, but I'm pretty positive pregnancy hormones will be controlling a lot of your emotion right now.
You and your real family (not including him, unfortunately) will get through this.
I wish you peace, and calm moments, a perfect flower bloom or ray of sunshine. Allow pieces of joy to warm you on the inside, and put one foot in front of the other.
Me: BS 53/FWW 2001- in my prev M
Him: WH 65
OW: 64 (Phone calls for high sch
rockbottom2468 (original poster member #32496) posted at 2:27 AM on Sunday, February 5th, 2012
WhiistleSt0p - Yes, you are right. He made the choice to leave us, OW or not. I do know that.
Me: BS-29
Him: XH-33
Dday: June 2011
Together: 13 years
Children: DD(8), DS (6), DD2 (8 months)
Status: He left for 20yo OW.
"Even on my weakest days,
I get a little bit stronger"
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