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Silentthoughts ( member #40289) posted at 8:36 PM on Thursday, September 5th, 2013
Wow great post. gotta print.
WW - early 50s (me)
BH - late 40s
3 grown children
Married 25 years
Online cyber sex dec 2010. I got caught late dec 2010. Lying and TT until full disclosure jan 2011.
In R we both are committed to staying in this M.
SurprisinglyOkay ( member #36684) posted at 9:15 PM on Friday, September 20th, 2013
FWS me 38 (recovering addict)
BS him 41 AFrayedKnot
Together 10 years
2 children
"Your secrets keep you sick"
AFrayedKnot ( member #36622) posted at 10:26 AM on Thursday, November 7th, 2013
BS 48fWS 44 (SurprisinglyOkay)DsD DSA whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better."Knowing is half the battle"
HollyLou ( new member #41248) posted at 3:00 PM on Thursday, November 7th, 2013
I'm a newbie BS- and this was very interesting. I see both myself and my WS floating inbetween these states throughout our M. Thanks.
BW, 55
WH, 58
D-Day 10/30/13, 11/20/23
M: 27
2 DDs 25, 23
Status: ??
LA44 ( member #38384) posted at 11:41 PM on Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
Just found this. Thanks to Beach for starting it. Glad it was bumped a few times! Will share with H.
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
cantaccept ( member #37451) posted at 10:22 AM on Friday, December 6th, 2013
"I'm still standing better than I ever did. Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid" Elton John
I would now like to be known as Can!
dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh deleted
I attempted R, he was a lie
AFrayedKnot ( member #36622) posted at 1:20 PM on Sunday, January 5th, 2014
BS 48fWS 44 (SurprisinglyOkay)DsD DSA whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better."Knowing is half the battle"
Kap12 ( member #41759) posted at 4:02 PM on Sunday, January 5th, 2014
Kap12 ( member #41759) posted at 4:02 PM on Sunday, January 5th, 2014
Prayingforhope ( member #41801) posted at 8:12 PM on Sunday, January 5th, 2014
Going to carry this with me! It might come in handy if my BS ever gives me a second chance...
WH 41
BS 40
D-Day Oct 28th, 2013
Together 18 years
Three amazing boys 12, 9 & 6
Praying for hope daily
AFrayedKnot ( member #36622) posted at 1:47 PM on Sunday, March 23rd, 2014
BS 48fWS 44 (SurprisinglyOkay)DsD DSA whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better."Knowing is half the battle"
BrokenButTrying ( member #42111) posted at 1:58 PM on Sunday, March 23rd, 2014
I can identify myself in the dysfunctional honesty before and during the A. But can also relate to the healthy honesty since Dday.
BH is in the dysfunctional intimacy categories for everything, those paragraphs are like reading about him. Not sure what to do with that information now.
Madhatters - We have R'd.
Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. We can do this.
SurprisinglyOkay ( member #36684) posted at 8:32 PM on Monday, May 5th, 2014
Bump 
FWS me 38 (recovering addict)
BS him 41 AFrayedKnot
Together 10 years
2 children
"Your secrets keep you sick"
Actionsoverwords ( member #41949) posted at 3:40 AM on Wednesday, May 7th, 2014
I check off all of the boxes on the dysfunctional side of the requirements for healthy intimacy.
Having a check list for the healthy side of the equation is very helpful. Thank you for the repost.
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