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chelle1966316 ( member #4969) posted at 6:40 PM on Friday, February 8th, 2013
Im sorry you are going through this.
I am WS from Feb 2004-April 2004 first then a BS.
Together since 1981,married 1987 to present.Divorced,March 2012,for financial reasons, but still together until end of October 2012.Now hes having a midlife crisis and living away from home.
bluecali ( member #35135) posted at 8:23 PM on Friday, February 8th, 2013
Me-BH
DDAY 12/1/11
Separated and uncertain
down_not_out5 ( new member #33361) posted at 9:58 PM on Friday, February 8th, 2013
I to miss my wife, the woman I thought she was and who sometimes still appears. That woman is still there, but so is the uncaring, hurtful wayward wife and the more I distance myself from her and see her for who she really is, the more I realize that the wife I thought she was and who I believe she could still become, is not who she is.
Maybe this is an aberration and your WW will come out of the fog and see the light. Or more likely, this is who she really is.
I hate that your WW is putting you though this. You are not alone. And this is not your fault, this is all on her.
BH(me)-49, WW-45
Married 7 yrs, together 10
DD-7, DS-4
D-day 5/28/2011
in Limbo trying to detach, in house is it's own special hell
2married2quit (original poster member #36555) posted at 12:07 AM on Saturday, February 9th, 2013
I feel for all of you but you have made me feel ...not sure if to use the word "good", but at least I know I am not alone.
I too when I see her now, I see all the things I chose to ignore about here, but are now out in the open. Her self contentedness, her impulsiveness and her lack of sensitivity toward others.
She had shown signs before but I chose to ignore them until it came out in the biggest way possible, an AFFAIR. Now it's destructive, now it's got my attention. Maybe too late. :(
BS - Me 47 WS - Her 45 ( she's a childhood sexual abuse survivor)
DDAY -#1- June 2012/ #2 -June 2015 / #3-August 2015
Married 25yrs. 2kids
She had 2 affairs with two different men.
Status: divorced.
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