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Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 5:44 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
Look at it this way; you may have saved the second victims life (or at very least her limbs) because of your knowledge. A person without your training might have tried to pull her from the wreck. You were there for a reason.
Bless you for stopping and assiting. 
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
LoveActually ( member #31030) posted at 5:51 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
I'm so sorry for you that you had to see that. I was the first on scene at a one person accident about six years ago--the man was thrown from the car and died right in front of me--I will never forgot it--it took me weeks to get back to normal--hugs to you and prayers for the lost and injured.
BS (Me) WS (Him) D-Day 5/29/09Married 15 yrs, together 20 yrs
StillGoing ( member #28571) posted at 6:08 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
Thank you for being the kind of person who stops to help with that kind of horrible shit. It has to be brutal to see that.
Mama_of_3_Kids ( member #26651) posted at 6:33 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
(((HFSSC)))
You did the right thing and you did what you could; of course it is going to be traumatizing. Does your hospital have free counseling that you could use? Every hospital I have worked in has had some type of program where we could receive a certain number of sessions for free every year. This may be a time for you to use it, if they have something like that.
Me: BW/33 The kidlets: DS16, DS12, and DD10 The hounds: Three Shih Tzu's The felines: Two short haired kitteh's
HFSSC (original poster member #33338) posted at 6:50 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
I work in a SNF. I did talk to our social workers this morning...one of them actually was a paramedic before she went into social work. She helped me a lot.
Thank you all for the hugs and prayers.
Me, 56
Him, 48 (JMSSC)
Married 26 years. Reconciled.
silverhopes ( member #32753) posted at 7:29 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
(((HFSSC)))
(((victim's family)))
Aut viam inveniam aut faciam.
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 7:57 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
I'm sorry that you had to see that, but I'm glad that lady had you there to comfort her.
(((HFSSC)))
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 7:59 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
(((HFSSC)))
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
NotDefeatedYet ( member #33642) posted at 8:05 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
It will probably stay with you, but be proud of yourself for not falling apart. A lot of people do. I was a police accident investigator for years. I can close my eyes and still see the face of the first body I pulled out of a car. I will never forget it, and that was almost 20 years ago. All the ones after that sort of run together.
"It's a fool that looks for logic in the chambers of the human heart."
redrock ( member #21538) posted at 9:40 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
I don't respect anyone that can't spell a word more than one way:)
sullymeishadomi ( member #16305) posted at 10:57 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
(((HFSsC))) prayers to you, the victims, families and all those who stopped to help.
Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 11:10 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
You poor thing. How awful.
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
HFSSC (original poster member #33338) posted at 11:29 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
Just saw a news report. It was a 52 year old man who ran off the road, over corrected and then hit the minivan head on.
I finally cried this afternoon when I saw JM for the first time and he hugged me.
Gonna go take a long, hot bath.
Me, 56
Him, 48 (JMSSC)
Married 26 years. Reconciled.
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 11:38 PM on Wednesday, April 3rd, 2013
I finally cried this afternoon when I saw JM for the first time and he hugged me.
'Cause he is your soft place to land, and that is so very wonderful. A positive for a very sad day.
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
Jen ( member #26584) posted at 2:43 AM on Thursday, April 4th, 2013
(((HFSSC)))
(((Victims & their loved ones)))
Me former Booger Bear ...
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Hearthache again ( member #28564) posted at 2:49 AM on Thursday, April 4th, 2013
How horrible and rewarding at the same time. You were there for the right person at the right time. Prayers are with you.
Me-BS(34)
Him-WS(37)
Married-14 years together 15
Kids 4: 17, 14, 10, and 5
DDay#1 9-26-2008 Dday#2 4-26-2010
We have R!!! But I still hate the number 26!
This too shall pass
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Mama_of_3_Kids ( member #26651) posted at 3:35 AM on Thursday, April 4th, 2013
If this *didn't* bother you, I would be concerned. You are human and you are a nurse; it is in your blood to save a life and when you're not able to, it hits you very hard (speaking from experience here).
More hugs...(((HFSSC)))
Me: BW/33 The kidlets: DS16, DS12, and DD10 The hounds: Three Shih Tzu's The felines: Two short haired kitteh's
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