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PurpleRose ( member #33129) posted at 2:35 AM on Thursday, April 11th, 2013
pass.. The reality is that you deserve better. If you are hurting and in pain, you can't be 100% for your kids- they feel it even when you think they do not.
You deserve a relationship/partner who will truly care about YOU, and not engage in fuckery like "pretend" family lunches and veiled "friendship" hugs.
((pass))
divorced the Dooosh 8/13
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Dance like nobody is watching,
Text and email like it will be used in court someday...
Pass (original poster member #38122) posted at 5:08 AM on Thursday, April 11th, 2013
Thank you again. It's only just recently that I've decided I deserve better. Even now that we're separated, that still seems so far off - but I know it will be good for me to have some alone time between the "fuckery" (great word!) and a real relationship.
Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.
velveteer ( member #30997) posted at 12:54 PM on Thursday, April 11th, 2013
I am not friends with WXW. We co-parent, its civil and its works (for the most part). But we do not have joint family events. She did (like they all) suggest the 'friends' thing but I nipped that right in the bud. It confuses kids, delays your healing and lets WS' off the hook in their own minds. There is simply nothing to be gained in this approach.
Pass - its hard now, but it will get easier - that I can promise you.
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 9:12 PM on Thursday, April 11th, 2013
It's only just recently that I've decided I deserve better.
As you work on detaching ^^THIS will become stronger and stronger and you'll look back and be amazed/shocked/dismayed that you lived that way for so long.
Someone here once said to me "Some day soon this won't be something that is happening, it will be something that has happened". I didn't believe it was possible at the time but I'm there now and it is glorious.
Sending you strength and healing friend. Expect the fuckery to escalate for a time when she realises the emotional bakery is closed.
(((pass))) In the early days I used to force myself think about my future in a positive light for a few minutes a day. At first it was hard and felt like fantasy but these days I effortlessly spend most of my day thinking of my sunshiny, bright present and future of love, laughter, respect, contentment.
[This message edited by StrongButBroken at 3:45 PM, April 11th (Thursday)]
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
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