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I want to add, I don't mind taking pictures of people if they have their own phone and camera. I love doing that for folks! But not on my own phone/camera.

Anyway, I wouldn't think twice about it. What with the electronic age there is so much new etiquette around that we hardly know what is right or wrong these days.

[This message edited by Dark Inertia at 10:08 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)]

I think the dude was rude.

yeah count me in this group. I would've done it and I know DS 18 would've done it as well.

I don't see how he was rude. It's not like he said "OH MY GOD, HELL TO THE NO!"

What exactly did this person do that is rude? All I see is someone declining taking a picture of a stranger and sending it to another stranger. It sounds like what you are saying is because your sons would have done it, and you would have done it, since this kid chose NOT to do it, it was rude of him to decline.

[This message edited by Dark Inertia at 10:18 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)]

Him being rude is just my opinion. Just like AJ's mom had the same opinion. My doing it has nothing to do with what my son would or wouldn't have done. Hell, if he had said no, I still wouldn't have done it. Your interpretation of my reply is off but that is YOUR opinion. I'm not questioning it so why are you questioning my opinion? You're entitled to yours just as I'm entitled to mine.

All I am asking is HOW was he being rude. I am just going off what you said. How, in your interpretation is he being rude? Because after reading your post I went back to the original post thinking I missed something, and I don't see it.

You said (paraphrasing): I would have done it. My son would have done it. Dude was rude.

What is one suppose to take from that?

And I said nothing about you not being entitled to your opinion, I was just questioning how you FORMED your opinion. I didn't mean to sound harsh.

[This message edited by Dark Inertia at 10:26 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)]

I was at a restaurant and a couple was celebrating her birthday. To her surprise, he had a decorated cake made and brought out to her table. He had forgotten his phone and asked if I could take some photos of her with the cake and email them to him. I did it without question. Obviously it wasn’t a photo of a child, but I didn’t hesitate in the least.

Me too, we were on a boat cruise in Boston. A mom asked me to take pictures of her and her kids, then gave me her email address and I emailed them to her.

Maybe the guy is a fwh and didn't want to explain to his bw who you were and why he was sending pics for you!

You said (paraphrasing): I would have done it. My son would have done it. Dude was rude.

Ummm...those were actually more "my" words.

Rude as in he sat there for some time and either participated in or overheard ppga's conversation with the other person.

His rudeness lies in his response "I'm in the middle of something" while never looking at her instead of acknowledging her request and saying something more kind, such as "I'm sorry, I'm uncomfortable doing that."

ETA: I "get" why he may have had issues with it. IMHO, he could have handled his response better.

[This message edited by ajsmom at 10:32 AM, April 23rd (Tuesday)]

What is one suppose to take from that?

that in my opinion, given the welcoming atmosphere of the barber shop, he was rude. I don't see why you seem to be taking an issue with my post even though I'm not the only in this camp.

Maybe he was playing Candy Crush Saga

*ccs waits for no one*

*and i would never ask a stranger to take a picture of my kid, or give a stranger anybody's phone number*

*i hate giving MY number out, which is probably why i don't date much *

If you had asked the older guy you were engaged in a convo with, better.

If you were asking it to be sent to you, better.

But asking to send a pic of your gc to a 3rd party (albeit his mom) - not so good.

What was your dd's reaction?

And my 26yo - if he was waiting for a haircut, playing on his phone, he would have tuned out the entire convo between you & the other guy - heck he tunes me out if he's engrossed in something.

To Ajmom: "ummmmm" ... No, yourself and someone else said that. I did not find his reaction to be rude at all. I found him to be caught off guard at suddenly being asked an invasive thing and trying to tactfully bow out WITHOUT being rude. Not everyone is articulate as the next person, and I would not categorize his reaction as rude unless he became belligerent.

I apologize to Missjai (?) I do not mean to just needle you, yours was the last one I picked.

I wouldn't sweat it ppga. Some people will be uncomfortable with it, other's won't. I think the discomfort stems more from it being unusual than out of line.

Also your GS was out in public, preserving that kind of moment isn't some intensely intimate or perverted request.

Lol, I don't think you should worry too much about it. I have received a few pics of my kids from random numbers when they are with their dad. Of course my ex is probably using the kids to flirt with some chick, but his phone can't send/receive picture messages unless on WiFi.

What was your dd's reaction?

Well of course I didn't tell her, lol! She and her H both would have given me the ole 'Moms' ole fashioned eyeroll'.

Oh, eye roll while shaking their heads.

PPGA - I don't think you should even worry about this for another second.

A) You never know until you ask.

B) You were gracious when you let the guy off the hook.

C) I doubt highly that this guy has even thought about it since it happened.

and Finally....

D) Don't get an iPhone get a Blackberry!!!

He may have been rude; he may have been uncomfortable and nonconfrontational. Who knows?

The request would have made me very uncomfortable.

We can only answer from our own perspectives.

My cell phone is my only phone and I am very particular about who I give my phone number out to.

So yeah ... If a total stranger asked me to take a pic and send it to someone I didn't know I wouldn't be too keen to do it because now some total stranger has my phone number.

I'm not saying that asking is wrong because it isn't wrong to ask. Though neither is it wrong or rude of someone to refuse.

Put me in the camp of this request would have made me feel uncomfortable.

Shout out to my 15 year old daughter. If a guy asks you to take a picture and forward it on your email...don't do it. He now has your email, he then runs a reverse look up, finds out your name, finds out your address, runs a google earth to see where your bedroom window is....I think that acid flashback paranoia is kicking in this morning...get away get away you demons.