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solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 12:29 AM on Saturday, August 3rd, 2013
((((Lighthouse)))) I am SO SO SO glad you have a diligent doctor. It makes such a difference.
Millions of hugs and prayers.
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
Eranda ( member #6010) posted at 1:55 AM on Saturday, August 3rd, 2013
I just had it removed from my tongue. I had a biopsy that was apparently very thorough because he got it all on the first shot. Thank God. But if he hadn't, they would have done a second surgery like yours.
As long as it's been definitively removed, you will likely just have to go for a lot of follow-up checks. I have to go every three months for the next three years, then every six months for two years after that.
It's scary as hell, I know- but catching it early and treating it aggressively will make all the difference. Try to breath, so everything your doctors tell you, and ask a million questions.
oh... and DO NOT start looking it up on the internet. What you need to know is information about YOUR cancer in YOUR situation with YOUR treatment. Nothing else is relevant. Everything you can find online will turn you into a worried wreck.
(((hugs)))
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AgainandAgain ( member #34835) posted at 4:16 AM on Saturday, August 3rd, 2013
((((((LIghthouse))))))
I have no idea what you are going through but we are all here for you. I agree with Eranda-don't google or look anything up. I've done that in the past and was convinced my situation was just as bad as the horror stories.
You'll be in my prayers.
knightsbff ( member #36853) posted at 4:30 AM on Saturday, August 3rd, 2013
(((Lighthouse Heart)))
Thoughts and prayers for you.
fWW 40s, BH 40s
D-day 27 Aug 2012. Kids 25, 17, 13. 2 dogs.
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Profoundly grateful Every. Single. Day. that I am blessed with an H with strength, integrity, and compassion, and that he decided to try.
Lighthouse Heart (original poster member #8899) posted at 4:44 AM on Saturday, August 3rd, 2013
Thank you everyone. It's always encouraging that no matter the problem, the frequency of posts (or lack of in my case) or the length of being here...there's always someone around SI to offer a hug, a personal view or advice. You may not ever know what you post does for someone...I'm telling you it makes a difference. I thank you and appreciate your responses.
The surgeons office called today - there will be no preconsult visit. I'm booked for surgery on the 14th and the doctor will speak with me before he does the excise.
I'll have more info from my GP on Wednesday when I see her in person. Until then I'm staying busy and trying not to think about it...tonight I'm having a bottle of Shiraz called "Screw It" just because.
Thanks again.
I release the past so I am free to fight for my future unencumbered.
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 4:35 PM on Saturday, August 3rd, 2013
Sending you mojo for both good news and to resist the urge to search on the internet!
(((Lighthouse)))
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
peridot ( member #18334) posted at 7:59 AM on Sunday, August 4th, 2013
I think...therefore, I'm single.
It is what it is.
gahurts ( member #33699) posted at 12:52 PM on Sunday, August 4th, 2013
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
Catwoman ( member #1330) posted at 7:53 PM on Sunday, August 4th, 2013
Shoot, I went to the plastic surgeon for a "consult" and after looking at it said, "You have a problem with me doing this now?" So we got it all done in about 40 minutes.
GDM had one on his scalp--much more painful and involve than the one on my hip.
You will be fine.
Cat
FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 27 and 24. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
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wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 8:13 PM on Sunday, August 4th, 2013
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 7:51 PM on Monday, August 5th, 2013
Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.
Lighthouse Heart (original poster member #8899) posted at 6:34 AM on Wednesday, August 7th, 2013
Thanks again for the thoughts. Met with my brother and his wife on the weekend and filled them in. I've decided not to say anything to my father at this point. He's 93 and his wife is having a hip replacement next week...so his rock is going to be needing his full attention. We lost my brother 3 years ago to Pancreatic Cancer and my mother 12 years ago...unitl I know more I just can't add to this.
I'm in a holding pattern at the moment. My procedure scheduled for the 14th has been cancelled until they can find me another surgeon. Apparently the Oncologist from the Cancer Clinic (who I've not met or heard from) has requested a Sentinal Node Biopsy to be also conducted at the same time as my larger excise and the Plastic Surgeon I was booked with can't do that.
I gather they inject a dye in the area they took the tumor from(yeah fuck me - they are now referring to it as a tumor)and follow as it drains to the nearest lymph node...then they remove that and test it to see if cancer cells are present?
I don't know if this is routine anymore or what...it's just getting me a bit more anxious though.
So I hurry up and wait now.
I release the past so I am free to fight for my future unencumbered.
woundedby2 ( member #18522) posted at 6:41 AM on Wednesday, August 7th, 2013
(((lighthouse)))
Sending along mojo and prayers.
In 2010 I divorced the NPD assclown who cheated on me with my best friend.
Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson
click4it ( member #209) posted at 6:59 AM on Wednesday, August 7th, 2013
((((lighthouse))))
sending much prayers and strength.
Me: 45
Two boys: 20 and 17
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01
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lostworld ( member #19197) posted at 4:28 PM on Wednesday, August 7th, 2013
My 22 year old son was diagnosed with early stage III melanoma 2 years ago. I'm happy to help in any way I can.
Me: BS
Him: FWH
Married Over 30 years w/ grown kids
Dday 1: 2007
Dday 2: Mid 2008 (same MOW, 14 month false R)
R'd
The affair was the aberration, not the marriage or the man.
sportsfan ( member #9918) posted at 5:00 PM on Wednesday, August 7th, 2013
(((Lighthouse)))
I'm thinking good thoughts for you ... hang in there.
brokenpromise ( member #28859) posted at 12:07 AM on Friday, August 30th, 2013
Hi Lighthouse
I hope you are doing ok. It is a very scary diagnosis. I was diagnosed with Acral Lentiginous Melanoma this past April. My lesion was located on my left little toe.
Yes - little toe. It can happen I had my toe amputated and thankfully, was diagnosed with a low Stage 1A.
Good resources for me were AIM at Melanoma, Melanoma International Foundation, and Melanoma Prayer Center.
I cannot stress enough to get anything that strikes you as weird or "funny" checked out by a dermatologist. Don't wait. The deeper the growth, the more dangerous the melanoma lesion can be. When in doubt, cut it out. Wear sunscreen, make sure your kids are protected, don't forget feet and toes, don't use tanning beds.
Hope you will let us know how you are doing.
Sending healing thoughts. BP
BW- Me 62 FWS - 68
M 45 years
DD June 9, 2010
On and off LTA with dept secretary
But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal Matt 6:20
brokenpromise ( member #28859) posted at 12:07 AM on Friday, August 30th, 2013
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BW- Me 62 FWS - 68
M 45 years
DD June 9, 2010
On and off LTA with dept secretary
But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal Matt 6:20
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BW- Me 62 FWS - 68
M 45 years
DD June 9, 2010
On and off LTA with dept secretary
But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal Matt 6:20
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BW- Me 62 FWS - 68
M 45 years
DD June 9, 2010
On and off LTA with dept secretary
But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal Matt 6:20
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