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I'm pretty sure ow was in my house. My DD13 (at the time)she told me about a dream she had while I was out of town. She said she walked into

our bedroom when she woke up. Said she grabbed my foot like she always did to wake me, but it wasn't me, it was a woman. The woman's mouth fell open and she pulled the blanket up to.her neck. Her daddy was asleep. DD said it scared her so she ran and jumped in bed with her sister. She seemed so confused when she talked about and kept saying it seemed so real. My ws got mad and screamed, it was a dream, wht are you even.talking about it. His reaction and my DD confused expressions pretty much said to me, it wasn't a dream. Our bedroom door lock use tostick where u could just push the door open. I know that bitch was in my BED!! I have a streak of hatred for ws for not only doing what he did, but for his reaction to our DD. That's one that will always stick with me.

Having the enemy in your home is just evil in my book. I'm so sorry you are dealing with this.

"He also brought to back to our hometown in WI to meet his mother and sisters. Who does this stuff?!"

People that feel they can. I read your reason for not leaving or throwing him out, but this has been going on since 1987. I am sure he has had a job during that time somewhere. He is never going to change because he doesn't have to change. Like my grandfather use to say "When you get tired of being shit on, get out from under the cow's tail!" I pray you find the strength to stand up for yourself and stop letting him do this to you!!

[This message edited by whensitover at 2:23 PM, September 16th (Monday)]

He has been employed, since around 1989. He has had issues with 3 of his jobs. He will have to work hard to get a new job.

This is a new OW. She came in the scene 12/2012. The OW from 1987 is out if the picture. We totally reconciled from that situation.

Another OW came into the picture about 7 years ago and she is out of the picture now too.

Yes, I need to leave. With current job situation attorney wants me to wait so spousal support will work out in my favor. No minor children in the picture anymore.

I am not making excuses for me or him, but we were married young. I worked for a bit at the beginning of the marriage during under grad and med school. Then I stayed home with the children. So up until recently I felt unable to support myself.

This job situation came at a bad time. Otherwise I would have filed.

[This message edited by Mochagurl at 11:26 AM, September 26th (Thursday)]

(((Mochagurl)))

I totally understand the need to wait.

Maybe by the time he gets the new job the housing market will be better for you to sell.

That way you can buy something suitable for your new life!

I wish you luck.

Very sorry you are here but after 3 times he should be OUT!

Good luck!

Ugh I know your pain with this one. Our nanny was in my house and they did the deed in our family room right in front of our huge wedding picture and children's pictures on my brand new couches I busted my tail to purchase. I was so angry when I found out that I wanted to get rid of the couches but as someone else said, I reclaimed my house. My house - not hers. She should be ashamed of herself. I blessed these couches with my WH way before she did anyways...