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Trying33 ( member #38815) posted at 8:13 PM on Thursday, October 3rd, 2013
every time stuff gets uncomfortable in life, he shuts down. Doesn't matter if it's this or my A or problems with his FOO or work. If it's uncomfortable, he's out (mentally & emotionally).
When this happens, how do you deal with it? How do you feel about him when he reacts this way?
Darkness Falls (original poster member #27879) posted at 1:49 AM on Friday, October 4th, 2013
I feel extremely frustrated with him when he reacts this way. I do feel less frustrated than I used to, though (pre-A). I've come a long way in accepting that it's his personality and even though it's the polar opposite of mine, I didn't get into a relationship with a clone of myself, I got into one with him. At the end of the day, I need to accept him for who he is. He's not likely to change after 40+ years of it.
I deal with it mostly by dropping the subject, whichever one it may be at the time.
Married -> I cheated -> We divorced -> We remarried -> Had two kids -> Now we’re miserable again
Staying together for the kids
D-day 2010
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