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GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 3:18 AM on Thursday, October 17th, 2013
"Ex-Shat, since you didn't pick up Teslet today from pre-k for your extra time, I can no longer trust that you will pick him up the other days you said you would. Therefore, I will not require you to get him on (list the dates), I have made other arrangements."
This.
You only get one strike when it comes to f-ing with the kidlets. All bets are off now.
Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
I edit often for clarity/typos.
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 4:23 AM on Thursday, October 17th, 2013
I would add "without informing me thereby leaving Teslet abandoned".
I hate him. NGs the most, then it's even stevens between ex-shat, CGs Stretch Abbondads X and pass' Princess.
The sad clown is sixth. Yes - it is a surprise to me too.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 5:47 AM on Thursday, October 17th, 2013
((((((((((Teslet))))))))))
Tesla, unfortunately, he still has lots of room to sink lower. It sucks.
Tesla, do yourself a favor-always have a backup plan for any plans he makes that are not specifically stAtwd in the parenting plan. If you allow him to make alternate parenting arrangements! It'll save your sanity and tesla"s self esteem.
Hugs,
K
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
tesla (original poster member #34697) posted at 11:45 AM on Thursday, October 17th, 2013
Ok, so I sent this:
Since you were unable to pick Teslet up Tuesday, please confirm that you are picking him up today from pre-k by X a.m. Otherwise I will pick him up.
I got this response immediately -
Have you decided to let stripper whore pick Teslet up?
Hm...gosh, let me see about that...did you decide to give me my dog back? Did you decide to pay me the money you owe me? Did you decide to man the fuck up and tailor your schedule to Teslet's?
Really? You didn't pick Teslet up because you are throwing a mantrum about your big bad bitch of an ex-wife who doesn't want stripper whore to pick Teslet up because you admitted (to me and the school) that you need to get SOME SLEEP.
Oh, by the way, idiot, your son was crushed that you didn't show. Crushed.
Go get a lawyer and have that person do some legal magic and force the school or me to okay what you want. I will accept the judgement of a court but what I will not do is defer to the tantrum of a fool.
My response:
Only you or I are to pick him up from school.
He hasn't sent anything back. His time is just about up.
Unbelievable. He's letting a selfish power struggle get in the way of seeing his son. Ex-shat, for god's sake, just pick him up after you've slept. It's not a big deal. It's better for Teslet.
Actually, what would be better for Teslet is if he just disappeared.
FTG.
[This message edited by tesla at 5:46 AM, October 17th (Thursday)]
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
peridot ( member #18334) posted at 3:19 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2013
I think...therefore, I'm single.
It is what it is.
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 3:48 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2013
Again, I just want to cry. WHY do people let their tingling nethers interfere with their ability to be a compassionate parent who prioritizes their children first?
I'm sorry.
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
Undefinabl3 ( member #36883) posted at 4:03 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2013
I seriously can't believe that he is using his own son's feelings to get at you.
He tried with the dog he didnt even want, so he's moved on to his own child.
I seriously do not understand people like this.
Me: 35 MH
Him: 41 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit
Phone Find 11/21/14 - I can't even right now.
1/26/15 - Started IC for me, DH won't go.
1/10/18 - Again?!? Online EA's
honesttoafault ( member #27105) posted at 4:54 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2013
Only you or I are to pick him up from school
Perfect answer! Stick to the facts. You said you have to go to court in a few weeks? Document this.
I wouldn't bother texting him about whether you trust him or not, or can rely on him. Have the lawyer do that.
I'm so sorry you have to go through this.
You cannot rely on him.
Undefinabl3 ( member #36883) posted at 6:43 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2013
This may jack the thread a little but...
Would he marry Stripper Whore so that she could be involved in things?
Marry her out of spite so that while you wouldnt have to 'deal' with her, but that her change in status makes her more of a part of Teslet's life?
Me: 35 MH
Him: 41 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit
Phone Find 11/21/14 - I can't even right now.
1/26/15 - Started IC for me, DH won't go.
1/10/18 - Again?!? Online EA's
ruinedandbroken ( member #29250) posted at 11:57 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2013
Omg....ex-shat sounds soooooo much like my ex. I swear he would do the exact.same.thing. He stop at nothing to spite me.
“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 8&11
Married 14 yrs Together 21
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 9:13 AM on Friday, October 18th, 2013
*FUCK YOU, YOU LITTLE, LITTLE MAN*
I cannot believe he did this to Teslet. I cannot believe he thinks he'll get you to change your mind with this behaviour.
What a fuckwit, seriously.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
tesla (original poster member #34697) posted at 8:10 PM on Friday, October 18th, 2013
Apparently now he's ranting about how he's getting a lawyer and going to take me to court.
Huh.
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
tesla (original poster member #34697) posted at 8:13 PM on Friday, October 18th, 2013
And I would laugh my ass off if he married stripper whore to circumvent this shit. I don't know if anyone here has noticed but his mind is all sorts of fucked up and I have a gut feeling that marrying her to "show me" is actually an option for him.
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 8:31 PM on Friday, October 18th, 2013
Apparently now he's ranting about how he's getting a lawyer and going to take me to court.
Let him.
In the meantime let's all pull up a comfy chair, grab some popcorn and start an Asswipe pool Called "When will FT actually file a motion?"
I vote for never.
What a jerk.
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
peridot ( member #18334) posted at 9:09 PM on Friday, October 18th, 2013
Apparently now he's ranting about how he's getting a lawyer and going to take me to court.
I hear this all the time. Usually when he doesn't get his way.
I think...therefore, I'm single.
It is what it is.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 9:13 PM on Friday, October 18th, 2013
Apparently now he's ranting about how he's getting a lawyer and going to take me to court.
I'm sure he will. Right after he files that countersuit, probably.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 2:48 AM on Saturday, October 19th, 2013
Maybe he is saving up his legal action on you because he thinks he gets a discount.
The sad clown went through a bout of this. Said he was going to show up with the cops over a FRR dispute, was getting an AVO because I responded to his emails. So much crazy stuff. All noise.
I wish he'd just give it a crack and be done with it. Idiot.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
strawblond30 ( member #6263) posted at 5:30 AM on Saturday, October 19th, 2013
I feel for you, my ex hasn't had the boys for a weekend or weekend night since August he is busy working , hobbies & whores.
Divorced 2013 after several years of infidelity on both sides. Remarried July 2018 my new husband Is opposite from Ex. I can actually breath with out worrying what he is doing. Living my best life now .
Vulcanized ( member #33523) posted at 8:09 AM on Saturday, October 19th, 2013
(((teslet)))
Not being a parent, no parenting advice other than FTG. Sorry.
Me: fBW/MH 40s
3.26.13: Liberation day: D'd the whiny turd after being saddled with a serial cheating, NPD, jitbag 10 years too long
Now:-----> Everything is as it should be
tesla (original poster member #34697) posted at 3:05 AM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2013
I am so tired and stressed out (lots of work stuff going on right now as well). I can't wait for this court date to get here. I'm tired of this idiot.
When ex-shat didn't show last Tuesday, I asked ex-shat's step-mom if she could watch Teslet for me. She knew it was because ex-shat didn't show up. She mentioned that to ex-shat's dad. When his dad asked ex-shat if he was supposed to pick Teslet up, ex-shat said no, he wasn't.
Of course he's going to lie about that. That doesn't bother me.
Today, ex-shat emails Teslet's teacher again. Says that stripper whore will be picking Teslet up for his visitation on Friday because he's had a schedule change.
Now honestly, I could care less if he sends his work mule stripper whore to pick Teslet up on his designated visitation. It's his 48 hours, he can fuck up his time with Teslet as he sees fit.
Funny story...there's no school Friday. For Teslet or me. So I guess he will have to make the drive out here. Poor him.
But here's the other thing he said in the email to the teacher...I'm paraphrasing...'do not assume that I am picking Teslet up unless you hear personally from me.'
uhhhh...excuse me? Sorry, buddy. I get the spin you are trying to make...I get that you are trying to tell everyone that I'm lying about you getting Teslet because I'm trying to make you look bad. Seriously, idiot, no need to lie...you do a damn fine job of looking like a piece of shit all on your own.
Does that fucker really think that if he emails the school and says that he is picking up Teslet that they are going to release him without notice from me? They have a copy of the decree fuckhead. Somebody has to give them the dates of who is picking up Teslet...that someone is me. In the event that we disagree-- and you showing up saying that you are picking up Teslet WITHOUT me sending in a note automatically signifies to the school that we disagree-- then we revert to the state guidelines where you don't have visitation time until 6 fucking p.m. every other mother fucking weekend.
What the fuck? DOes he think he can throw all this drama out in front of the judge for the contempt hearing? Does he really think he can somehow throw the judge off that he owes me half of his 2012 tax refund that he AGREED to pay me in the decree?
Sigh.
I'm tired.
Fuck this guy.
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
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