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pregnantandsad ( member #40141) posted at 8:12 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013
M 7 years, together for 12
2 kids- DD5 & DD 1 1/2
D-Day 7/2013 - Divorced!
IrishLass518 ( member #34373) posted at 8:48 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013
You go girl. Keep on ruining his life by leaving him alone to make his own choice and deal with the consequences. You totally got this 
Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"
Thefly559 ( member #40268) posted at 9:08 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013
Love this post. And you are too funny with the human mattress. Lol. He sounds like a real winner. Can't wait for my karma bus but I am not banking on it anytime soon. Good for you. You deserve it. All the best.
"respect? you don't deserve it, you won't get any from me unless you earn it"
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 9:12 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013
Muah-ha-ha-ha!
That just needed an evil, "he got what he deserved" laugh to go with it!
Welcome back to reality, Idiot King! 
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
dmari ( member #37215) posted at 10:17 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013
Thank you for sharing your early christmas gift from santa claus!!!
flygirl123 (original poster member #32672) posted at 10:40 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013
He told me that his child support was just not going to be possible much longer. I did respond.
"Are you referring to the same support that you are now 21,000 behind on? Plus the 8 grand that made your bankruptcy petition for the medical bills for the boys???"
I said "having to pay and actually paying are two completely different things, sweetie."
He said he was done talking about it and he congratulated me on ruining his life.
"Thank you...and...you're welcome."
I have now been waiting for karma to come for the last three year...and let me tell you this...IT IS SWEET! WAY better than I could have ever even imagined.
Sitting back and doing absolutely nothing was the absolute best way to give him the rope to make his noose. And...I have gotten a front row seat. It will come for everyone...and it's wonderful!!!! But so is having an amazing life in spite of the cheaters!
I used to feel sorry for the guy that ended up dating me, because all I could see was baggage...lots and lots of baggage. Now, when I think about dating again...I think about whoever gets me will be one lucky guy because he is getting one strong, confident and insanely happy girl with three awesome kids!
And I have the Mattress and the Stain to thank for it. Muah!!!!
Me...40 and fabulous
WXH...just plain stupid
DS's...9,7 and 6
DDays that are too numerous to mention...but no longer have relevance.
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 11:26 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013
You have a claim in his bankruptcy, he owes you $21,000.
I was listed as his/their Number 1 creditor on the bankruptcy petition. And my XH was current on support! Ask your attorney if you can file a claim in his bankruptcy-you might actually start to receive something, especially if their doing a repayment plan.
Nice to have a sideline seat on the Karma Bus Route!
Hugs,
K
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
devistatedmom ( member #24961) posted at 11:59 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013
I thought they can't put CS in a bankruptcy? I thought it couldn't be discharged?
BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
LifeIsBroken ( member #27071) posted at 3:45 AM on Thursday, December 12th, 2013
Per FlyGirl's post, the 8,000 was for unpaid medical bills for their sons.
Gotta love it, Fly Girl ! Your post made MY day. Thank you !
D-Day: 8/28/2009
BW: 59 @ D-Day XH: 60 @ D-Day Married 34 yrs, LIBerated: 2/17/11
Beyond terror is freedom. (Agnes Martin)
peridot ( member #18334) posted at 6:18 AM on Thursday, December 12th, 2013
I love these karma stories!
Why hasn't the state thrown his ass in jail?
I think...therefore, I'm single.
It is what it is.
stronger08 ( member #16953) posted at 9:36 AM on Thursday, December 12th, 2013
You have a claim in his bankruptcy, he owes you $21,000.
This !!!!!!!! I worked in Banking for decades and am very familiar with people filing Bankruptcy. CS is not considered a dismissal debt. He can not discharge what he owes you. Contact the trustee who is handling his Bankruptcy and inform him/her of the support dilemma. You can even ask them to incorporate your support payments through the trustee depending on the type of chapter he is pursuing. Is he filing 7 or 13 ? If its 13 your support amount can be included in his monthly payments to the trustee and in turn the trustee pays you. But if you have a garnishment of his salary its best to leave it at that. But the arrears of $21,000.00 needs to be brought to the trustees attention. As was said by the other poster, you will be the first to be paid out if his petition is approved. While the Karma is enjoyable and amusing, please make sure that the court is aware of what he owes you. That's your money and $21,000.00 is nothing to sneeze at.
You cant eat soup with chopsticks.
bigskyblues ( member #36759) posted at 9:48 AM on Thursday, December 12th, 2013
Santa was good to you this year
BH 50s
xWW 50s
Dday1 7-2012
Dday2 8-2012
Divorce 9-2012
4 kids all adults.
Married 22+ years.
I have moved on and life is good!
Softcentre ( member #39166) posted at 9:59 AM on Thursday, December 12th, 2013
Love it!
Me: BW
Him: XWH
2 Children
Finally reached indifference & looking forward to my new beginning
jackie89 ( member #38271) posted at 12:38 PM on Thursday, December 12th, 2013
Thank you for this post! Love it!
It gives me hope - that Karma does come around.
Dark Inertia ( member #30727) posted at 1:50 PM on Thursday, December 12th, 2013
Uhhhh... So why is he going to be unable to afford child support? He is filing for bankruptcy, he's charging off all his debt and will basically be on a clean slate. If anything, he should be able to afford more. What a loser.
7yrsflushed ( member #32258) posted at 1:53 PM on Thursday, December 12th, 2013
Posting to say congrats on the karma and to make sure flygirl saw Stronger and kajem's posts about including your CS in bankruptcy.
D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
Divorced 9/2/14 and loving life!
homewrecked2011 ( member #34678) posted at 1:58 PM on Thursday, December 12th, 2013
My sis filed bankruptcy. It's not like the old days where all is flushed away,, you have to set up a repayment plan that the trustee handles.
File your claim, get your back child support.
additionally:
My friend's husband died, and because she had already begun pursuing him thru the courts, she had a claim on his estate.
Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55
flygirl123 (original poster member #32672) posted at 3:04 PM on Thursday, December 12th, 2013
Oh...I have hired a bankruptcy attorney to fight for what he owes me...I did that a couple of years ago, knowing this was coming down the pike.
He knows he is screwed. And he absolutely cannot accept the fact that the only person responsible for doing it...is him. Reality has always escaped him.
He is just at the end of his rope with his shitty choices...that's all that there is to it.
He says he can't pay much any longer because he doesn't want to...it's not because he can't.
It won't be long now before he disappears into the wind because that is just easier to do than swallowing the fact that you are, in fact, a giant waste of skin.
And the Mattress can enjoy what she has...because when I was in the pits of hell...I was happy in the pits of hell...
But...now that I am free?????
I say to them both "thank you...and...you're welcome."
Me...40 and fabulous
WXH...just plain stupid
DS's...9,7 and 6
DDays that are too numerous to mention...but no longer have relevance.
flygirl123 (original poster member #32672) posted at 3:05 PM on Thursday, December 12th, 2013
You go girl. Keep on ruining his life by leaving him alone to make his own choice and deal with the consequences. You totally got this
IrishLass...too funny! And thank you!
Me...40 and fabulous
WXH...just plain stupid
DS's...9,7 and 6
DDays that are too numerous to mention...but no longer have relevance.
FieldsOfLavender ( member #39154) posted at 3:51 AM on Friday, December 13th, 2013
He also told me, on the phone, quite some time ago, that he was going to build this amazing life with the "human mattress" and that I just needed to accept it and move on with my life.
My STBX informed me via email that he was starting a new life with home wrecker whore. And that our child would be having a half sister. All this via email, two months after our separation. He told everyone including our school-aged child before he informed he. He told me to move on.
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