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This actually helped change my mood this afternoon. I was in a dark place this morning and spend most of it crying and texting with SAWH (side note I guess I can officially make him a fSAWH since he recently received his 6 month chip.)

Thank you all for your clever insightful and just funny responses.

I LOVE these!!! Thanks for the laugh!

Eta: this is the start of (P)A season for us and OW has all of a sudden started posting public things like this. The last one was about being a feminist. Yeah because being a strong women means sleeping with another woman's H. I would never but I'd love to post some of these!!

[This message edited by AML04 at 6:07 PM, December 12th (Thursday)]

On a more serious note, what I'd really like to say to her is....

You were not a victim on any of this. There is nothing for you to really forgive. You were married at the time the A started and you betrayed your spouse.

Although you were pursued by my H, if you had healthy boundaries and didn't get your self esteem bolstered by having affairs with married men, then maybe you wouldn't have gotten hurt when you fell for all his unicorn farting rainbows and butterfly BS. You accepted a marriage proposal from a married man that lived 1000 miles away and believed every lie he told you because it made what you were doing easier and justifiable. You should be begging for forgiveness, not handing it out like you're some enlightened better person

and then I'd like to add the

Roses are Red

Violets are Blue

You're a crazy bunny boiler

That deserves nothing other than FU!

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[This message edited by Chefj9 at 6:28 PM, December 12th (Thursday)]

"I'd slap you, but don't want to get slut on my hand."

I did post this on my FB wall after Dday

Or, you could take this angle:

It seems like you have become more spiritual and introspective over the past several years. I am happy for you and your new spirit,,so much so that I wrote you this poem:

"Roses are red.

Violets are blue.

Go fuck yourself you stupid, ignorant bitch."

ROFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Oh these made me laugh since I was stupid and looked at OW's FB the other day to find another selfie with her boobs hanging out with all the people lapping it up saying she should make it her "about the author" section.

I spent the rest of the night thinking up titles for her book.

Thanks for the laughs! You are absolutely brilliant people!

Lol! Never thought this would be the place I found so many comedians. Thanks.

On a more serious note, what I'd really like to say to her is....

You were not a victim on any of this. There is nothing for you to really forgive. You were married at the time the A started and you betrayed your spouse.

Although you were pursued by my H, if you had healthy boundaries and didn't get your self esteem bolstered by having affairs with married men, then maybe you wouldn't have gotten hurt when you fell for all his unicorn farting rainbows and butterfly BS. You accepted a marriage proposal from a married man that lived 1000 miles away and believed every lie he told you because it made what you were doing easier and justifiable. You should be begging for forgiveness, not handing it out like you're some enlightened better person.

This is exactly what I thought when I read it. She should have been contemplating the meaning of the words humility, ownership, betrayal, infidelity and consequences before she got to 'forgiveness' ... still at least it's proof of one thing - she is might *think* she's zen, but that's because... she's just still deluded.

and Chefj - I'm with you here too...

Roses are Red

Violets are Blue

You're a crazy bunny boiler

That deserves nothing other than FU!

Yay!

I'm trying so hard not to give her any more head space. The more I think about her post the madder I get. I am not a vengeful person at all. Usually the first to forgive, and try and work issues out with people. But this OW makes me blind with rage.

One of her friends posted and praised her for being so enlightened and that she would love a better life than the average person. I want to out her so bad publicly. This was her second affair. She's into deviant sex acts. And she's a habitual liar that self mutilates..... A real prize.

One of her friends posted and praised her for being so enlightened and that she would love a better life than the average person.

Wow. Shows what the friend knows then huh? Personally, I'd be embarrassed to put my name to such a load of drivel.

I want to out her so bad publicly. This was her second affair. She's into deviant sex acts. And she's a habitual liar that self mutilates..... A real prize.

Chefj, She knows exactly what she's doing. You and your husband are the intended audience. She knows you know the date and that's why she's doing this. She's hoping to get to you. Don't give her what she wants. She is truly not worth it. You know her for what she is and this for the rubbish it is. Remove yourself from her audience. Just leave her to her deluded posts and her equally deluded friends.

(((Chefj)))

[This message edited by sinsof thefather at 8:36 AM, December 13th (Friday)]

She will get nothing but crickets. It took me months to get here and not retort. I will not back slide. Still working on the "stop looking at her FB". I am forever grateful for SI, all the support and comments. I don't post often, but I read daily here and I know I would not be where I am today (In a good way) without it.

((Chef))

Gentle 1 X 2 (very small 2X4 ): stop looking at her facebook. NC, sweetie, means you can start to put the anger and hurt in its place.

BTDT, it took a long time for me to stop reading the MCOW's smug self righteous facebook page. I feel a lot better about myself when I stop myself from looking.

Thank you Stronger :-). I know, I'm getting there. I know it's the right thing to do for myself. Just one of the hardest things to do. I don't trust her, the rational side of me knows I can't control or prevent anything she died and the only thing that matters is what my fSAWH does. The irrational side says don't jet get out if my site. One day at a time and thank you for the support and advice.

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