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Dreamland ( member #40488) posted at 1:53 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
How about 100.... That bitch kept after my fWH even after he broke it off. She kept texting.. That's how I found out...
One day she will pay!!! 
Me-BS 50 Him-WH 47, DD17
Together since 1993, Married 19 yrs
DDay 3/12,4/12,7/12 EA-PA OW - 25 single husband chasing bastard whore
LostSamurai ( member #41347) posted at 2:17 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
WW = 10
OM#1 = 100(Relative of mine and her LTAP)
OM#2 = 100 (Former Co-Worker of hers)
I am about a 95 for both of them. A 7 with her right now. Give me a trigger of any sort and it jumps right up.
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Realizationland ( new member #42413) posted at 2:38 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Of the ones I know about:
1 - 7. Thought she was weird and pathetic.
2 - 10+. Totally my opposite. 2x college flunk-out, drunk, manipulative, loud, profane, crass, underemployed, broke, and living with another guy. She's even my physical opposite.
3 - 1. She's just a kid in her 20s and he was an authority figure to her. More pathetic in so many sad, sad ways.
Me - BS
Him - WH
Together 17 years, married 14
ImOKNow ( new member #42426) posted at 2:55 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
It's a 7 for him and a 10 for her
ImOKNow ( new member #42426) posted at 3:03 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
It's a 7 for him and a 10 for her
dmari ( member #37215) posted at 3:07 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
0
She ain't worth a number 
aero1122 ( member #41575) posted at 3:14 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
10 for him because he betrayed me.
10 for her because she knew he was married
Me-35
WH-36
Together 18 years
Married 7 years
2 kids
D-day 12-7-13
Both currently in counseling
Trying to R
I am a warrior!
I will survive and thrive!
gypsybird87 ( member #39193) posted at 3:22 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
At the height of my anger? For XWH, a 10. For OW, a 4/5.
Now I just feel sorry for them both. After all, she has to deal with him, and he has to deal with her. Eww. They can have each other.
Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem
Follow your heart, but take your brain with you. ~ Alfred Adler
Letting go of the outcome is about the most empowering thing you can do for yourself. ~ LosferWords
BrooklynLove ( member #41800) posted at 3:28 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
8 for him 
and 10 for her . She taunted me so she gets a 10 and was a manipulative bitch.
Will never be naive again...
BW - Me (29)
WH - Him my JH sweetheart (34)
Married - 8 years
2 babies - DD (4) and DD (1)
OW#1 - PA with classmate for 2 months
OW#2 - Some slut living oversees that needs a green card. EA & PA going on for ye
Crashtestdummy ( member #26121) posted at 3:56 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
OP: 10^10 we are talking on a logarithmic scale, right??? I am just waiting for him to die so I can piss on his grave and shit on his headstone... Maybe I should not wait and piss on his head and shit in his mouth
XWW: 0, she is irrelevant except when I write the check each month... Then she moves to the front of the line
BH-Me 51XWW-her.... 54 2 Wonderful Sons: 32 & 21D-Day: 09/22/09Married 20 yearsDivorce Final: 08/12 Enjoying Life!
"I Don't Suffer From Insanity, I Rather Enjoy It". Serge A Storms
lilmonkey ( new member #41682) posted at 4:29 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Definitely 10 for WBF and 10 for OW. Different kinds of anger though.
WBF was more an upset, offended, disappointed sadness. Like, "how could you do that to somebody you love?" The kind of anger that would make the offender shrivel up with guilt.
The anger towards the OW is just shameless, merciless anger. Bitch. Whore. Slut. Homewrecker. I didn't know her well, but she was a part of my WBF's life for a long time and we had even been introduced once and she gave me a hug (after the infidelity had occurred! How nice). I just don't get how someone could do that to someone else's relationship, even if they didn't know them. You have to be one selfish, manipulative, heartless person to do that. That's the kind of anger I have towards her - just pure hatred.
outside4me ( member #42430) posted at 4:58 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Initial Anger: OP=7 WS=10. Now (2 1/2 weeks post D Day) OP=5 WS=6. Acting on my anger ain't gonna fix what happened, so I try really hard to keep that in check. They both peg a 10 on the disgust meter, though. 
But that's just like...my opinion, man. I could be wrong.
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 8:43 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
I just don't feel anything for the one OW I positively know about. There are several others I suspect, some specific women, some EA and some PA, but again, I just don't feel anything for them. Not anger. One in particular annoyed me at the time, but meh. Whatever. These women are so pathetic, and my ex is such a good liar & deceiver. The nature of his betrayal/infidelity is such that I just don't have a sexy love affair I can point to and blast with my wrath.
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
hurtingfool ( member #42196) posted at 8:48 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
WW 9
AP 4
WW because of lying mostly, she did something I had wanted, just without me.
AP because I knew it was a possibility that some jackass would try something while she was deployed. The thought had crossed my mind even though I never acted on it or made any attempts.
Me: BS 34
Her: WS 32
13 years of marriage
15 years together
3 kids
DDay:January 16, 2014
cl131716 ( member #40699) posted at 12:28 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Both a 10. I always thought I'd have no ill feelings towards an OW but after seeing how hard she pursued him knowing he was married then used me and the kids as a way to keep contact...I realized she was just as guilty. It really pissed me off when she told me I needed to lighten up and called me insecure as if it's completely normal to engage in cybersex with other people's spouses. She claims she never wanted him....okay then why was it so hard to leave him alone?
Me BS 33 Him WS 37
Together 6 years, married almost 4 years
D-day: 07/23/13 EA with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out about a past kiss
D-day: 05/30/16 Saw first text message from new COW
D-day: 09-08-16 Dr. Fone confirmed EA
Loadsofchocolate ( member #40708) posted at 2:29 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
WH gets a 9. OW is easily 10+. As soon as I discovered the affair she began taunting me. I have never had any contact with her, didn't even know who she was. Despite all the abuse i have had from her I have never retaliated. She stalks me online and if I block her she just opens up a new account and begins the abusive messages again. Apparently I'm in the wrong for preventing WH from contacting her as they were destined to be together. Now they are both heartbroken and it's all my fault 
...no thought for my feelings or those of our 2 kids or her partner then
Dday1 - 2013 admits EA
Dday2 - Dday5 (end 2013) breaks NC 4 times admits PA
Dday6 - November 2014 breaks NC
Dday7 - 2014 EA with COW
Dday8 - 4/2016 discover 2yr EA from 2009-2011
Dday9 - 8/2016 discover cheating from 18 years ago
Uhtred ( member #40392) posted at 4:15 AM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014
A ten for the both of them. There is not a word to describe my rage at the both of them.
Me: BH 38years old DDay 4-29-13Her: FWW 39
sadinlex ( member #32047) posted at 4:17 AM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014
me - BW him - WH
Dday - 4/11/2011 double betrayal
"After the A, being honest and being a bitch are pretty hard to tell apart." - Ladyogilvy
"A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person."
hobbeskat ( member #38805) posted at 2:40 PM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014
10 for both. She was my friend. She was at my wedding. That blows my mind.
jstbreathe ( member #40829) posted at 2:55 PM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014
(((LostSamurai))) Pretty much explains the way I feel!
Because I'm a firm believer in equal opportunity, I give them both a 10 for pure disgust!
The trust of the innocent is the liar's most useful tool.
Stephen King
Me: BW
Him: WH
Married: 20 years
2 sons, 13 & 17
Raising my sons
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